I work with several lovely ladies on a daily basis. Is it wrong for me (as a guy) to say: "You look very nice today", "I noticed that you had your hair done and it looks very nice", "The lotion that your are using smells pretty", "Is that a new dress? Good choice", "That blouse makes you look very pretty" etc. I am in no way attracted to these ladies (happily married) but I do play a significant part in keeping people upbeat and happy. I care about these ladies as if they were my sisters or friends. Am I going beyond what is considered acceptable?
2007-03-20 11:34:35 · 12 answers · asked by Antrozous 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I believe what you said "should be" fine. But some women "may" consider that too personal or take that differently. Always get to know these ladies before saying anything like that. Otherwise, you "could" get yourself in trouble. They "may" file complaint to the HR department for what you said. It's highly unlikely though, but just be careful. Good luck ;)
2007-03-20 12:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by C L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a problem, I work front desk at a very stressful office and I am the first point of contact for alot of people. Keeping the office enviorment lite helps. Keep people happy in a high stressed enviroment helps make the day go by faster. I always tell people, guys and girls that they look sharp and WOW you smell good today. Even when there is very little to how they look I usally try to say something good about the job they do and keep track of what they are doing.
2007-03-23 10:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by usinf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't have a problem when a co-worker compliments me on what I'm wearing, but there's a difference between saying "That blouse makes you look very pretty" and "That's a nice blouse." Its the difference in complimenting the woman and complimenting the woman's taste in clothes. Just be careful you don't become the creepy guy who's always making comments to the women. If you know the women, its nice to compliment them sometimes. Make sure the women know you well enough that if your comments ever make them uncomfortable, that they can talk to you about it.
2007-03-20 12:46:06 · answer #3 · answered by tchaikovskygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rule that I have always heard is can you say the same thing to anyone (male or female) to determine if it is a sexist remark. The main factor is your intent and the way in which your co-workers perceive the remarks. Maybe just ask them how the feel.
I also agree with Jamie and Pacifica you need to acknowledge more than the appearance of your female coworkers.
2007-03-21 09:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if that is you keep it up and be true to who you are. i know we now live in a horrible world where you can be sued for this kind of thing but why should you change and not be so nice? Its nice you think about other people and compliment them - this just does not happen enough these days :)
2007-03-20 12:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it comes innocently as you say it does, then go right ahead. I know i would like to hear if my hair looked good or if my blouse looked nice without having to worry if i am being hit on. Good job and keep it up!
2007-03-20 11:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by Tammi 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Although your comments are complimentary, they are about the persons appearance and, therefore, personal, i.e., hair, clothes, scent.
Unless you know them v.v.v. well, or are good friends, I suggest you keep it light, casual and professional.
You can say other things to keep the atmosphere light and upbeat, some humour, good news, etc.
2007-03-21 07:01:31 · answer #7 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know...do you say that to the guys?
I think everyone likes a little appreciation or to know that people realise they exist. Personally I would rather hear things like, "gee that was a good call you made today on that ..." or
" I really liked your style in that meeting today!"
Getting it sweety?
Peace darlin!
2007-03-20 11:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i got here across this on the internet, and that i think of it correlates to what your asserting. Double standards against adult men are ridiculous and virtually impossible to get rid of from peoples minds. in case you place a woman on a pedestal and attempt to guard her from the rat race... You’re a male chauvinist. in case you reside domicile and do the housework… Your a p0ofter in case you artwork too difficult … there’s in no way every time for her. in case you do no longer artwork sufficient… your a sturdy for no longer something lazy pr!ck If she has a humdrum pastime with low pay... it is exploitation. in case you have a humdrum repetitive pastime with low pay... you ought to get off your lazy @ss and locate some thing extra perfect in case you get a advertising beforehand of her... that's favouritism. If she gets a job beforehand of you… its male distinction in case you cry... you’re a wimp. in case you do no longer... your an insensitive b@stard while you're you opt without consulting her... your a chauvinist... if she comes to a decision without consulting you... she's a liberated woman in case you ask her to do some thing she would not get excitement from... that's domination... if she asks you... that's a favour in case you savour the female sort and frilly undies.. You’re a pervert... in case you do no longer… your gay in case you like a woman to shave her legs and shop in shape... your sexist... in case you do no longer... your unromantic in case you attempt to maintain your self in shape.. Your ineffective... in case you do no longer... your a slob in case you purchase her plant life... you as much as a minimum of a few thing... in case you do no longer your no longer considerate in case your pleased with your achievements.. You’re crammed with it... in case your no longer... you’re no longer formidable If she has a headache... she's drained. in case you have a headache... you do unlike her anymore in case you like it too many times... your over sexed. in case you do no longer... there ought to be somebody else
2016-10-02 11:31:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no of course not. however if you only compliment the way a woman looks, they may take it as sexism, so compliment them in any way you can, just not too often
2007-03-20 15:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋