I've been dating this guy for a year now and he still doesn't want to call me his girlfriend!!! Its so strange because I've met all of his friends (which he would not have done if he wasn't in to me) and he has told his parents about me too. But he will not say that I am his girlfriend!!! Sometimes he acts as if he is not in to me at all. We stopped talking for about two months and then he emails me out of the blue. Then when we meet up he grabs me and holds me for a long time (something that he doesn't do) but now he acts as if he doesn't care about me!!! He tells me that he doesn't care if I date other people but when he suspected me of dating someone else he got jealous (he tried to hide it though) and then he started ignoring me as if he was upset. I don't know what is up with him!! I've asked and he gives bullshit answers like "I don't know what your talking about" He is so cold at times. Should I just let him go? I'm confused!!!! Why is he like this?
2007-03-20 11:33:44 · 17 answers · asked by MalinaB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep away from this loser..he is no good..he will never make u happy.
2007-03-27 11:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I can relate to this question. About a few months ago I was dating this guy, I've met all of his friends and his family too. He was even living in my apartment. Anyways, I allowed him to tell people that we were only friends only because he was still legally married. But after a month and half of him living with me people started questioning our relationship. The messed up part about it was that his wife calls me and tells me that doesn't care that we were together and that she's happy for him. She was telling me that she was the one that wanted things to end between them. Well, he still kept telling everyone that we're only friends. But his family knew better, also because my best friend is his second cousin.
The only reason he did all of that was because he was messing around with other women and he knew that if people knew that we were together they would not hesitate to tell me, and believe me I live on a small island. word gets around pretty fast. Well basically all I can say is that maybe he's not ready to stick to just one girl, maybe he wants to have all of them at once.... If I were you I would ditch this guy in a heart beat, and don't look back. Trust me, I did it more than once and every time I allowed him to come back he ends up doing the same thing... Good luck and I really hope you ditch his sorry behind....
2007-03-28 17:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by ~*~ ChAr~*~... 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun dump him. He's just an a*s that's dragging you along for something, question is do you really wanna find out what that reason is? He's probably just insecure at times or a player that wants whatever, whenever. Forget him and move on and don't go back to him.
2007-03-28 17:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by jenny s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It took me a very long time to learn this valuable piece of advice I'm so freely giving to you. Actions are louder than words. Take time to think about his actions throughout the relationship. How did they make you feel? Aren't you worth more time and effort then this guy is willing to give you? I wouldn't spend much time thinking about why he is the way he is. Men and women are just different. Focus on what your getting out of this relationship. Could it be that he treats you this way because you allow him to? Look inside yourself and know that he is the one missing out. Think about who you could be missing out on if you continue to date this guy.
2007-03-28 12:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by love2breal2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like this guy does not what a girlfreind. Or maybe just does not want you as a girlfreind...but is still afraid to be alone. Good thing your there to keep him company.
I'd say dump him. He sure does a lot of negative stuff, so why stick around?
2007-03-22 18:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand what the problem is here....you pretty much answered your own question without realizing it.....in a sense you are 'enabling' him cuz you keep him around when he shows the littlest bit of attention....
get rid of him...and if you aren't going to get rid of him...quit complaining
2007-03-28 15:12:35 · answer #6 · answered by fxy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is for 1 using you!!! for 2 he is just using you to have some one!!!
2007-03-28 17:08:33 · answer #7 · answered by Katy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run away from him...he is using you...if you like the affection , hang around..but it will go nowhere...you can do better
2007-03-28 18:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he doesnt want a g/f but he doesnt want to loose you, maybe he is using you for something? or maybe hes not ready and wants to keep you around till he is?
2007-03-28 12:11:51 · answer #9 · answered by nikoleleigh85 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cut him off from sex until he acknowledges the fact that you are his girlfriend. that will work for sure...if not, then call me...i'll call you my girlfriend or whatever you want to be called...queen, princess, whatever!
2007-03-27 19:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋