well, there is this boy named Zak and i really love him. only he cheated on me last month. well i started goin out w/ this guy 3weeks after i broke up w/ Zak. Well, that other guy was hittin me, and my friend Jennifer told Zak about it. He acted all concerned about it and asked me who it was and asked me if i wanted him to beat the guy up 4 me. I said no & broke up w/ that other guy. now i'm single and so is Zak( he broke up w/ his g/f 4 me) well i text him alot, but only sometimes he'll text back. do you think i should go back out w/ him after he cheated? i mean i don't know if he still likes me or not, but do you think i should ask him back out?
2007-03-20 11:33:32 · 11 answers · asked by moon_stars_fury 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know that a lot of people are going to tell you that you shouldn't ask him back and move on, but ask yourself...would you be happy if you guys went out again? Only you can answer your questions.
2007-03-20 11:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by DANCER_CHiCK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he has broken a HUGE law in relationships: He CHEATED on you. Perhaps he thought you weren't giving him enough attention? Perhaps he was bored with you? But it shows that he was concerned when you went out with another guy and wanted to act all macho in front of you. Perhaps going out with another guy woke Zak up to how much he likes you.
Before you get back together with him, you must sit him down and discuss his betrayal (that's right... he BETRAYED you). You must express how deeply concerned you are about how he broke your heart and inquire why he did it. Before getting back with him, you need to lay down some ground rules for a relationship (if he complains that you're being too strict, tell him that he brought it on himself). No cheating, no text message breakups, etcetera. Then you must express how hurt you felt, once again and make him PROMISE to follow the relationship rules.
You just need to take the lead in a relationship. You BOTH must share the responsibilities of a mutual boyfriend/girlfriend moment. You need to get him to know that. If you truly think your relationship won't crash and burn again, go right ahead and get back with him. Though, TRUST comes before love. You must be able to trust him and he must be able to trust you. That's the only way you two can FLOURISh!
2007-03-20 11:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by My Name Doesn't Fit Here 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question you need to ask yourself right now, is Do I respect myself? and if that answer is YES, than you need to not waste your time on Zak. If you take him back, than he knows that he can do it again and again, treating you like crap and cheating, because you let him back.
2007-03-20 11:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by src8784 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. Is this what you want. I hope not find someone who want cheat on you.
2007-03-20 11:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by LDJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have always heard " once a cheater always a cheater" but if u really like him and u can tell he likes you as well i think u can give him another chance and if he ever does it again i would break up wit him and never give him another chance
2007-03-20 11:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ krista ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your choice. Go with your heart not just with other peoples opinion
2007-03-20 11:37:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you might be too young to date anyone who hits you or cheats.
if you're not, then no. he cheated on you. he'll do it again.
2007-03-20 11:37:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you still have feelings for him...go for it gurl
2007-03-20 11:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by Lil_B4ByLV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea and i think he really likes you now
2007-03-20 11:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by Harinder Gill 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no
2007-03-20 11:37:20 · answer #10 · answered by castillo5247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋