We've been together awhile; around a year. She does little things that kind of bother me. She won't write on my wall for face book even if i write on hers because "she doesnt know what to say" or "I can just call you" ...but she doesnt call. Yet she writes back to guys who send her pointless msgs. On msn we barly talk because it takes her forever to answer. Whenever i try to talk to her about something she says we'll talk later, and everythings always on her schedual..and then she asks why i get mad=S. She won't let me write on her hand unless its small but another guy wrote ALL over her hand. I always do nice things for her like write her a letter or send her an email...but she never returns the gesture. I know she would NEVER EVER cheat on me so don't bring that up, and she says its because she doesnt think about this stuff and that she shows her love when were alone.
2007-03-20 11:29:20 · 12 answers · asked by Hurt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Her and her friends chill with guys alot and it bothers me, and i understand she should have all types of friends but the guys are usually drunk and even though she drinks it bothers me. One of her friends is going out with one of mine and he gets treated so much better and included in things yet i don't. Im so close to telling her to f.u.c.k it because im so sick of tellin her over and over only for her to be the same.
2007-03-20 11:30:38 · update #1
Well...that depends. Is she self-conscious about writing to you? Like, do you correct her grammar, spelling, etc., or criticize her? Or are you a better writer than she is?
It might be that she wants to keep some of her independence...her own friends, etc., outside of your relationship. That's not necessarily bad: in fact, it might be healthy.
Also, ask yourself: are there "little things" you do that bother her? Being human, there probably are. But do those little things supersede the big things?
You too might be different from each other in the way you show your affection. You need to have a strong understanding of what matters to each other and decide if you are both willing to do what you need to do to make it stronger.
2007-03-20 11:45:54 · answer #1 · answered by romi_ny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she just may not be the right girl for you. No offense, but you sound pretty young, and you're doing just what you should be doing when you're young--figuring out what you like and dislike in a partner. You may have just found out that you need more reciprocation and attention from the person you're with, and she just might not be a person who can or wants to offer that.
You asked why she'd do some of the things for strangers that she won't do for you. Maybe she thinks those things don't mean anything, and it's easy to do them with a stranger, but not with someone she's committed to. I know that may not make sense, but I've felt that way before, so it's possible.
Good luck!
2007-03-20 18:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not saying she's cheating on you...but I'm sorry to say it sounds like she may be losing interest. Some girls can't settle down and need the constant change.
Tell her how you feel, explain your worries and what bothers you, relationships are about compromise, if shes not willing to you've gotta think of yourself here and ask yourself, "do I really deserve this?" Cuz I gotta tell you hun...there's bigger and better fish waiting to be lured in.
Good luck
2007-03-20 18:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by toronto_leafs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man dump the girl! Why are you putting yourself in a postion to get hurt! Yeah she is treating you like crap and you know it, but your letting it happen. Cheating or not, it sounds like some kind of cheating is going on. Doesnt always have to be physical. Go with the old saying "Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me" Don't be the fool!
2007-03-20 18:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by biggdaddy1669 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hon sounds like you should have told her a long time ago f u c k it. Shes not good enough for you. If she cant include you on things then shes not a girlfriend at all. She sounds very immature and shes too interested in flirting with everyone else. Find yourself a good girl and let her go.
2007-03-20 18:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's really messed up. communication is one of the most important things & if she can't offer you that, it's not going to work. i would tell her exactly how you're feeling, letting her know that even if it's little things that she does that sort of blow you off, these little things add up and it makes you feel really brushed to the side. If, after a couple serious talks about this, she doesn't seem to have any empathy at all, I would start thinking about moving on.
2007-03-20 18:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by blondie22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let her know how you are feeling about everything and then if that doesn't work then i say let her go because honey you deserve sooooooooo.............. much better then that you need someone to be there and include you in on things. Also who will talk to you and listen when you need to talk about something!!!!! Good luck I hope this helps
2007-03-20 19:04:10 · answer #7 · answered by sweet heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her about it.. Just explain to her that there is a lack of communication in the relationship and it feels like she is putting you on the back burner and doesn't really care about... Sounds like her friends are becoming more important then the relationship is...
2007-03-20 18:35:41 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense but she might be falling out of love..if not then why dont you try hanging out with your friends more and try to forget about it. if you want try to make her jealous just dont go overboard becuase you still have to respect her you just want to catch her attention and realize how much of a blessing you are to her. also you could try a break. she might realize how much you mean to her. but careful with that becuase it might backfire on you. good luck
2007-03-20 18:36:35 · answer #9 · answered by marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety...The situation might b she's cheating on you...Or she's just a really big flirt...Remember relationships are 50/50 and if you feel that ur not getting wat u deserve then u should move on...She won't wait for you...So if u want out then end it cuz to b honest u seem better then that and thats wat i think u deserve...Get sum1 on ur level
2007-03-20 18:34:14 · answer #10 · answered by I LOVE HIM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋