If you did everything emotionally and financially for your girlfriend and left everything just to be with her and after you are together she left you. Later, she said I had dreams about my ex and wanted to give it another shot. I met her after a year of her divorce, she said she was over him. He was abusing her by all means; hitting her, spitting on her everything.
Now , after few months, she says that she knows I'm the one and wants me back but she says what she did was not even wrong. She did not think of my feelings or appreciate all I did from taking time off from studying and work or that I spent all my money including school funds on whatever she wanted.
It happened once before not the same but similar to it. The problem is; I forgave her many times and I gave her plenty of chances but she does not even admit what she did was wrong.
She's not a little girl she's 33 and I'm 25.
Should I take her back?
2007-03-20 11:22:20 · 5 answers · asked by What now? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I forgot to say that she has bipolar disorder. She did not tell me until her mom did that was after a year and usually she refuses to take the medications. I'm a medical student. She says she can't get through it without me but really she's not helping herself or letting me help her.
Any more opinions? Or change in opinion? Thank you all for your answers I really appreciate it.
2007-03-22 04:49:55 · update #1
Sweetie, ARE YOU CRAZY?? Why, first of all, would you give up your financial stability and education for a *woman*? The person who loves you is supposed to want what's best for you, to see you successful and stable, both materially and emotionally. Why do you allow this?
NO, do NOT take her back! Some women will work you just because they can! The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, and if she's done this multiple times, and doesn't even see that she was wrong in any way, there should be no question!
It sounds like you've got a good heart, but maybe not the best self-esteem. Work on *that* first, and then find yourself a girl worthy of that good heart you have.
2007-03-20 11:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it all in the second to last line - she's not a little girl and she should know better. And as for you, sweet thing, at 25 you should be out there "doing your thing" with the cuties 25 and under. Leave the sugar mama alone and find somone who will love all the attention and, no doubt, sweet lovin' that you will provide. NO DON'T TAKE HER BACK!! Good luck Hun!
2007-03-20 12:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question to you is, do you respect yourself? She obviously didn't back then. She's not admitting her faults now, so she still doesn't respect you. Think of all the things she has done to you. If you give in and let her believe she did nothing wrong, you are saying all the times you hurt because of her was b*lls**t. You'd be saying somehow those moments were all your fault. Do you really want to give her a chance to do even one more negative thing to you. This is, to me, a matter of self respect! Do you have any or not? But if you want my answer to your question, it's NO!
2007-03-20 11:39:12 · answer #3 · answered by the anomaly23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun you deserve so much better. You're younger then her, she's using you. Because shes older she does know how to manipulate the male mind. Shes using you, dude she's making you her booty call.
You deserve so much better then her, please, please don't go for her again. You sound like a good hard working guy, you don't deserve the emotional torment.
Think of yourself here, not her.
Good luck
2007-03-20 11:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by toronto_leafs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you still love her and it feels so real than give her a shot. understand that no one and nothing is perfect and she just may desevere a chance.but don't be with her if you really don't love her. well good luck.
2007-03-20 11:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋