i am the least favorite of all the grandchildren. she blamed me for ruining my dad's life when he married my mom when she got pregnant with me. grandma never acknowledges me growing up (never put a plate for me during dinner at her house!) and constantly reminded me that if it wasnt for me, my dad could have married somebody better. now times have changed and she's very old and sickly. i am the only one in the family who have money to spare. everybody is expecting me to step up and pay all her bills. i pity on what's happening to her but i just dont feel any connection to her. should i still help her?
2007-03-20 11:17:12 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have no legal, or, from the sound of things, moral responsibility to this woman.
I would say, give her as much help as you would a neighbor in similar circumstances...and that should just about cover it. Don't be vindictive, but also keep in mind that you do not have to apologize for being born, you do not need her forgiveness for that, and you certainly won't get it by giving her money. If other family members feel so strongly about it, then maybe they should get second jobs, and use the proceeds to contribute as much as they want.
It's real easy to be generous with money that is earned by other people...ask any congressman.
2007-03-20 11:56:32 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in no way obligated to help your grandma out, but as a human you can show her that even though she felt very little for you as a child growing up that you are not that mean hate full person that she is.
Ask your dad to help her after all it is his mother.
2007-03-20 20:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by Marla D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, some people are soooo cruel. Funny how things can end up, huh? I'd say make a small gesture of a contribution to the mean old biddy and call it even.
2007-03-20 18:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should help her, even though she was a B**** to you! If you don't help her and she passes away because she couldn't afford her treatment your family that loved her will probably resent you forever! I think it was wrong for her to treat you like that, you couldn't help it that your parents concieved you, that isn't your fault. If she wants to be a B**** then just turn the other cheek, but still help her get her treatment!
2007-03-20 18:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Sweet Girl♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your grandma did was unfortunate. Mothers will always be mothers; they want what's best for their kids. Now that all these have past and are history, do what you can. Remember, she's also your grandma. She's unlikely to be around for very long. Don't live to regret!
2007-03-20 18:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by SGElite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you should you'll look like the better person and God will thank you for your generosity in the long run...she'll end up looking stupid when you tell her even thought she was mean and very very evil towards you you'll help her out because unlike her your a wonderful person with feels and emotions...let her bitter cold heart remember all the evil she did to you when you were a poor young child she'll end up feeling like sh!t
2007-03-20 18:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by gigi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. I would give a little, just enough to say that you're not a cruel, heartless person like she has obviously been to you all these years. Give a little, and then cut off all ties with this evil woman. You're better than that. Its not like you can choose your parents.
2007-03-20 18:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by pinkpixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont feel connected to her andshe never liked you then why should you do stuff for her like pay her bills. She should have never even put you to the side and pay attition to her other grandchildren!
2007-03-20 18:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by Kaylee G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hard question that only you can solve. I do have a suggestion...take a long vacation, an expensive vacation and after you come back then make a decision. Nothing needs to be decided today.....take months. ......years....but...don't sign anything.
2007-03-20 18:53:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!
You shouldn't feel pressured to help someone who was so horrible to you! It wasn't your fault that your parents got pregnant, and you shouldn't let her make you feel guilty about that. Tell other family members that since she never appreciated you, you shouldn't have to pay bills for her.
2007-03-20 18:32:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋