Everytime I go out with a guy I have sex with him. I want him to love me so that's what I do. But they never do. I don't want him to ever get bored of me or start having sex with other girls so I'll do it as soon as I can. I had an ex-boyfriend who I was in love with and I thought he loved me but it turns out that he wanted to pretend that he loved me so he could have sex with me. I feel so ugly, I want the guys to like me.
2007-03-20 11:14:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's very hard to find a guy who will not love you just for the sex...very hard especially in the dance scene and in the club scene...
You might have to try to go out of your boundaries a look for guys you won't even think of looking for...if you looked for guys in a bar go to a library....
For me I am single for a VERY long time and sex with someone is on my mind from time to time but I know my standards...let's face it I am a red blooded male but I have a certain respect for women when they don't want to go all the way on the first date..
Doing it does not tell me who you are ..it's just tells me what you are willing to do for companionship...
I can't believe as a guy I am telling you to hold off but it's the right thing to do..there is a guy that will like you...I don't think the hardest part is to find a guy who likes you ...the hardest part would be tell him your past and having him except it.
Which if he will like you for who your are and not what you have done ....then you got it made...
Well don't feel ugly ....the more ugly you fell the more you will want to start your "one-night stands" You seem to have a beautiful soul ..just troubled don't punish yourself for the mistakes..just learn from them....I think a said a lot and hope this helps....Good luck to you and remember..LET THE GUY WORK IT FOR YOU :)
2007-03-20 11:30:16 · answer #1 · answered by Lone Knight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that maybe you should work on other things that they might like about you, it is not always just about looks or sex, there is probably a million things that you can offer, get a piece of paper and write down all your best qualities and when you are with a guy try to show those instead of just thinking about sex...picture yourself and the guy you like really connected and inlove and that will happen for you!
2007-03-20 18:19:35 · answer #2 · answered by Ray354 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop opening your legs so quick and give them something tangible to explore and fall in love with. Sex is sex and it can't keep a man. It only satisfies you physically in a sexual way, but what about mentally, emotionally, domestically, financially, all of the other very important aspects of a relationship. Sex can't buy love. Sex won't buy love so just stop having sex. Give your treasures to someone who deserves it, not to everyone you think you like.
2007-03-20 18:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are looking for guys to like you just be yourself. Love doesn't mean you have to have sexually intercourse with every guy you meet. True love isn't all about sex either read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8,13 there is the answer and only answer to what love truly is and is not. Also throwing yourself at guys is in essence throwing away your self respect and they see that and will use you for their self seeking agenda...Don't do It!!!!
I need to be honest with you, you are wanting someone to "love" you so badly that your blind to your own desperation. If you just be yourself you will be more attractive to guys and they will respect you instead of using you. They will also be attracted more to you because your inner beauty will show so please for your own reputation please take a deeper look at who you really are and what it is you truly want from someone you will fall in love with.
2007-03-20 18:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by setfree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be urself without sex. if a guy truly loves u hell wait for u and wont go to someone else.
2007-03-20 18:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by melissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guy thats worth it will love you for you. not because you sleep with him...and it suprising but true..alot of guys admire girls not sleeping with them immediately..because what you do with them portrays how youve been with previous guys...a guys doesnt want a serious relationship with a girl whose slept with lots of other guys...and your not ugly or none of the guys would hav slept with you.
2007-03-20 18:19:34 · answer #6 · answered by wOot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet someone just right for you
2007-03-20 18:19:34 · answer #7 · answered by tuff luv 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋