in dec. i broke up with my boyfriend, we were engaged 3 weeks later he is with someone new. he called and wants to meet me for a meal, just because he remembers what we had. he said i have to go quick i think the girl i'm seeing is in the driveway. I've heard that he takes her to church and wants her to meet his mom. now tell me am i being played and what is something good to saay to him.
2007-03-20 11:13:16 · 25 answers · asked by elliepenelly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Run away now!!! If he could be with someone else so quickly, and then is coming back to meet for a meal... he's a player and wants it both ways. Don't trust him. If you got back with him you would always be wondering if he was with other women and if you could trust him.
It's hard to end it with someone, I know. But you can do better and better things will come your way.
2007-03-20 11:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by Grinch 67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this can only mean one thing girlfriend: your guy was seeing this other girl on the side while still dating you. This is why only 3 weeks after you're finished he is already so serious about her, your guys broke up when he was sure which one he wanted to keep. :( Sorry I know this is bad.
Look I know this might not sound very grown up but I think you need to get his smug smile off his face and get some of your pride back. I would ask to meet him and ‘disclose’ you had a long term 'affair' with some other guy during your relationship. That you feel guilty about it and needed to let him know you were seeing this other guy while still with him.
Play it real low and ‘guilty like’ and provide lots of details on how irresistible the other guy was (hey tell him he was a Columbian exchange student and a few years younger than him) and how you couldn’t stop yourself from being with him all the time even knowing it was wrong... hell if you can tell him you felt there as something 'animal' in the way you felt attracted to each other... guys HATE their woman to feel hotter for some other guy, it makes them loose their male self-confidence.
This will also I bet put into a whole new perspective his hot little new piece of tail that is for now still covered with the allure of her past ‘secrecy’. And in any case it will help you even out the scale I think.
Just my 2 cents! Hope you're able to get some revenge - it's good for complexion they say ;)
My Best
Andie
2007-03-20 18:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you are way better off without him. A good friend of mine was in a situation almost exactly like yours. She was dating a guy and then they got engaged. She later broke up with him for various reasons. He then kept sending her emails and calling her telling her about his new girl friend. He's trying to make you jealous. If you broke up with him for a reason and stand by that decision, stand your ground. Don't let him persuade you to get back together. His actions are saying a lot of his maturity level, which seems to be pretty low if he's stooping to, "hey lets go out, oh gotta go, the girl I'm seeing is here" routine. You're better off without him. Just tell him that you stand by your decision to break up and you will not be persuaded to date him again, especially after the behavior that he is demonstrating to you right now. It's selfish and immature.
2007-03-20 18:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by ilovesubasketball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww man that's a tuff one...that dude is full of shyt! Men can be so cruel & nonchalant. He didn't even let the old relationship die really b/f jumping into a new one. Either he was seeing her when u were w/him or he is just looney...b/c there is no way in hell u decide after 3 weeks that u love some1 & wanna spend the rest of ur life with them. I mean let's be real here!!
2007-03-20 18:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible he was cheating on her with you before you broke up? I think the best idea is to bloke him out of your life because it's no fun to be played. I don't think it would be a good idea to meet up with. I'm sorry for what you're going through.
2007-03-20 18:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being played big time! If he wasnt that serious about you then he would of had you meet his girlfriend. Someting good to say to him is I know what you are doing and i want you to stop playing me and if you like me you do and if you dont you dont so quit the act!
2007-03-20 18:19:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kaylee G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I would tell him that if he really had feelings for you still, he would dump this other girl and take you to meet his mom and take you to church. Which he probably isn't really interested in. Just tell him to take a hike.
2007-03-20 18:16:55 · answer #7 · answered by zyllee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a really horrible thing to do to a person is to string them along for backup. I would move on and not look back. You will find someone who genuinely true. It may take time but really that's all we have.
2007-03-20 18:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi honey, i know its hard but try to move on, ive had many bad relationships but somehow you just move on, dont spend your precious energy on thinking about it, just move on and i am sure that you will find a new one.. i was brokenhearted so many times before, i was so sad and lonely.... and then i found the most perfect guy i could ever imagine! i am sure that that special someone be there when the time comes! take care
2007-03-20 18:18:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being played. Want something good to say to him? Tell him to stop calling you, that you are done with him.
2007-03-20 18:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋