I found some nasty things written online that one of my coworkers wrote about another. I thought they were friends, but it seems like one of them is really jealous of the other - in her online blog, she made fun of her and described different things she's trying to get her fired. I personally really dislike this girl who is posting the stuff on her blog and I thought she was one of the worst people I have ever met since day 1. I also actually really like the other girl and I don't want to see her possibly lose her job because of this stupid person. Should I show her the blog? It has other stuff in it too that will probably hurt her feelings a lot and I don't want to do that.
2007-03-20 11:00:10 · 9 answers · asked by really marine 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Fact from fiction, truth from diction. Oh what a demimma. The job a woman you like could be at risk because of a woman you do not like. There are things said that are not true about the woman you like that if many other coworkers see it she would feel bad. And if it went on a long time she might feel even worse. But, at the same time is is not your concern.
Follow the logic it always leads back to the truth. The blogger chic is posting defaming stuff about her coworker online. If she is doing any of it from her work computer the company might be open to risk which could effect all of your jobs. Not getting a satifactory result, the blogger chic might up the ante and start acts of sabbotage that could catch some unintended target in the office in its path. If you dropped the dime but did not do so it quickly, the girl you say is cool maybe mad at you, because by delaying her humiliation was prolonged. If the blogger chic finds out, YOU might be the next slandered worker staring on her blog.
Hum.....what to do? What to do? You could:
<>Copy the offending pages. Attach an annonomous note and drop it in HR or the mamagers mail slot. Then the word will get out and you will still be insulated.
<>Set up an account no one knows about, send the blogger and e-mail saying you know what they are doing and if they don't knock it off, you will squeal like a stuck pig.
<>Set up an account no one knows and send a msg to the gal being slandered and a link to the bloc.
<>Print out the pages and black out the worker who is being dissed. Tack it on the info board. That will let the whole office know she is dissing one of them and they will all be watching her. The blogger comes under heat, the gal you like is not publicly embarrassed in the office.
Those are some logical ways you can handle it with out being in the path of the flying bud and s***. Hope it gave you something outside-the-box to think about.
2007-03-21 17:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would show the blog to a manager, this is shocking there is a big difference between not liking someone and trying to loose them there job. Yes she will be upset and yes it will hurt her feelings but the thought of this going on behind her back and her being set up will hurt her more if no one tells.
There is a whistle blowing policy at work what covers colleagues as well so you can pas the info on and then let the possible grievance take its course.
Regardless of personnel feelings of people at work it is wrong to mess with them this way. The psychological and financial impact this could have on her is immense
2007-03-20 11:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should bring this to the attention of your human resources department. The nasty coworker is creating a hostile work environment and it could open the business up to litigation. Blogging about this sort of thing is never a good idea.
One more thing, once you show HR then forget you ever saw the website and don't mention it to anyone. You don't want to get dragged into this debacle.
2007-03-20 12:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by Susan G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should get too personally involved. It's really not your problem, and there is too much risk of both of them ending up hating you because of it.
That is, unless you are already very close to the offended girl. Then you might say that you have heard that the other girl is saying some things about her, but I would not go into specifics. Again, if you do, and the good girl goes to the bad one and says "Well, Judith told me that you said ..." then that once again puts you in the middle.
2007-03-20 11:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by Gary B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a supervisor or perhaps a work hotline that you can talk to?? If so, use those resources.
Either way, you need to report it to the proper officials.It is wrong (and possibly unlawful) to maliciously accuse or make false claims against someone at a work place.
Should you tell "the other girl?" I would not. I would let my boss or other superior break the news.
2007-03-20 11:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ in the sky 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could anonymously tip off your boss. I wouldn't show the blog to the other co-worker. It would hurt her feelings and really, no good could come from it.
Hopefully the mean chick will get dooced.
2007-03-20 11:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by dream_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report it immediately to your supervisor. If the company doesn't take it seriously there is a great law suit for the lady being attacked. It is called a toxic or poisoned workplace.
They WILL take it VERY seriously. "Fired, quit or criminal charges" will be the choice the blogger is faced with.
2007-03-20 13:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would show it to your Boss
2007-03-20 11:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by Josh R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MYOB
2007-03-20 11:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋