I was recently dumped by a guy after 1.5 years of being together. I've been set up on 3 dates in the past month. None of them worked out. Either I liked them or they liked me, but not vice versa. Should I give up? It takes a lot of effort to go out and meet new people. I'm tried of the emotional turmoil. Am I alone in this thinking?
2007-03-20 10:59:37 · 27 answers · asked by random 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not alone, it sucks.
2007-03-20 11:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if I tell you a little bit about my husband's dating past- it may help you out.
He had only dated four people in a 10 year span, each relationship lasting roughly 2 years. He got pretty frustrated by putting so much time and effort into a relationship but didn't want to give up and be alone. He tried the online dating sites and tried to meet people his age (he was 32 at the time). All he found were "cows" and just decided to give up on the whole dating thing. Through odd connections with friends, I randomly met him when I was 17 and he had thrown in the dating towel.
I really liked him (which was odd because there is a 15 year age difference) and decided to prusue him. He said "No way" at first because of our age difference. We ended up dating and now, five years later, we are happily married with a child.
I'm not saying the next guy you date will be the one but let the opportunity present itself. If you don't like searching all the time- get content with your single life and guys will come along; one way or another! You never know how you will meet your next boyfriend but it doesn't have to be though set up dates or going to bars.
Just relax and be yourself- someone will come along.
2007-03-20 18:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by Erin H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not alone. A lot of single people feel this way. To counter this type of thinking and in turn your attitude and appearance to others, you must change the way you think. The difference between someone who his single and loving it verses someone who is single and miserable is one thing: Attitude. Ever been attracted to a guy who wasn't interested in a relationship, yet outgoing and lot's of fun? How about a the lonely, depressed clingy type? You see what I mean. It's all about changing your perspective on life. Rather than being lonely and single. Pursue goals and ACTIVELY seek out what you want. There are more things to life than dating. Eat right, exercise and be social (go out, date etc.) Get involved and have at least one active hobby. Next time you are feeling alone and sad, don't just sit there. Do something to counter it. Call a friend, go workout, go do something fun, go to a book store or the mall and flirt if you want. When you're single and happy, living life n' loving it, (acting) like you don't care, one thing I can guarantee you will happen: you'll be coveted and inquired upon by a vast array of guys who want to hang with you because you're so fun, then your job is simply to pick who's worthy.
2007-03-20 18:11:42 · answer #3 · answered by ninjitsumeiyo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is a long process it may seem horrible, but just try not to be so quick with the matter. If you just got out of the relationship you might feel lost because its so quick for you to start dating. But take one step out of time. Don't just go on one day with the person and say you dont like try three or four times so you can see what they really are like. Also try different surroundings not the same thing over and over again. I've been in the same situationa and I took my own advice and I found myself a great man that actually loves me. Try and if you dont like it keep trying...Good Luck:)
2007-03-20 18:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by Ms.Pleasure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In many cases after long term relationships it is hard to get back into the dating scene easily. I would suggest just taking a break and hanging out with friends for a while, and when you feel emotionally ready give it another try
2007-03-20 18:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart is probably still hurting. It takes a while to recover when you were not ready for the relationship to end. Take some time, get to know and like yourself, then get back out there and try again. I am tired of dating too. It reeks.
2007-03-20 18:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by Kyle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone, however, maybe you should experience being by yourself. Getting to know self before you jump back in that game. You are still getting over your breakup so allow yourself to heal. If you walk into dating with that luggage on you, either it will show or you will effect other's feelings. Get to know self and appreciate yourself again before letting someone else in.
2007-03-20 18:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should get dating off your mind for a while. You know, do other things you enjoy. Get to cherish yourself for who you are and of course improve yourself.
True love is like a butterfly. When you try to catch it it drifts further and further away. But if you can just stay still, it might settle on you.
Good luck!
2007-03-20 18:13:21 · answer #8 · answered by QuietStorm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving up is for losers. Perhaps you're not mentally prepared to jump-in to another relationship. Take your time. Give yourself some personal space. Meanwhile, do things you enjoy and drop the 'dating' until you've "recovered".
2007-03-20 18:03:22 · answer #9 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u should go out different places and meet guys
don't go out looking for guys to date and stuff just let things happen
2007-03-20 18:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by lisha_b1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You`re not alone. Many many others are going through the same way. Never give up! There`s somebody somewere just for you. When he come accept him b`coz he was made for you. Goodluck!
2007-03-20 18:09:12 · answer #11 · answered by chuchuchu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋