should i feel akward?

Question

hey thanx 4 reading this. my boyfriend's older sister wantsme to be in her june wedding. we have only been going out for a couple months but i have known him for a couple years. me and his sister are friends but i feel a little akward about being in her wedding. i would feel really bad if my bf and i broke up and i was in allthe wedding photos with him. forever reminded of me cuz he can't burn his sister's wedding photos. i would just feel awful. should i accept her invitation or not? i don't know what to do

just so you people know i'm only 14 my bf is 15 and his sister is 20, we're not best friends but we are good friends. btw i don't think he'll propose anytime soon...

Answer 1

I think that if you feel comfortable, there is nothing wrong with you being a bridesmaid. But if you don't feel comfortable, then you really shouldn't be one. In that case, you can always sit down and talk with her. Let her know that you are honored she thought to include you, but you would feel more comfortable participating in another capacity (i.e., greeter, guest book attendant, helper, helping her plan, setting-up, etc.) or just being supportive of her without having a specific role at all.

Answer 2

I agree with you BUT girls are pretty methodical about this stuff, is it possbile that she may know of his intentions to marry you and that you just are not aware of these intentions yet?
I would sit down with her and tell her just how absoluetly flattered you are to be asked, but then lay out the reality of the situation and your reasons for being hesitant. My sister dated a guy for 9 years and he was in a bunch of my wedding pictures, thankfully not in any of the formal ones, but in alot of candids there is his face. Although they dont pain me to see, they do annoy my sister and she asked if I would destroy them for her. However as a bridesmaid you are in almost EVERY picture and I agree that maybe she hasnt thought out the possiblity that in 2 years when she looks back she might be kicking herself for asking you to be in her wedding. After all these photos just arent of any other day and they will last forever.

If she insists though and you want to do it, then theres not much you can do to argue her out of the decision she has made. Go ahead and do it and hope that this boy will eventually put a ring on your finger as well!

Answer 3

if she's asking you as a friend then do it.
if she's asking you only because you're her brothers gf then that's something she should have thought of.
obviously she wants you to be there if she asked you.
I was in my bf's sisters wedding - although we're engaged now so the pics won't be akward. But that doesn't mean that hers will be akward- she should look back and say aw that girls was a cool friend.

Answer 4

it is best to be honest! I would just say just that...tell her you dont feel comfortable being in her wedding but you would love to be a guest. Tell her what you said here...or just say I am relly sorry I dont think I can be in you wedding and leave it at that...she will get the hint. Maybe she thinks she is doing you or her brother a favor by asking you...I dont know it is a huge request to ask someone to be in their wedding

Answer 5

Well if you are friends with the sister and she has asked you definitely be in it.
Don't think of what MIGHT happen. The fact is that she is asking you as a friend and it is HER special day not your bf. Just relax and enjoy it!

Answer 6

i think you should, it's about his sister and the fact that she wants to in her wedding, he has nothing to do with your relationship with her, don't start making decisions based on what other people might think or how they will react, do what is right for you.

Answer 7

Your train of thought is ridiculous. It's an honor to be asked, so just say yes. Stop overanalyzing everything.

Answer 8

I say be in it... you can't really turn her down, that would be more awkward. Unless you're thinking about breaking up with him like, tomorrow, I say be in it. My dad's college girlfriend was in his sister's wedding with him.. they ended up breaking up & it's no biggie, my mom laughs about it.

Answer 9

No don't do it. You said it perfectly those photo's are forever and unless you know you and him are, I wouldn't do it.

You sound pretty smart about the situation and i would just go with your gut.

Good luck

Answer 10

Why don't you tell Sis of your concerns? If she assures you that all will be well should something happen to the relationship between you & her brother, then I'd accept.