I have a 4 year old stepson. When he is at my house he comments on how he showers with both his mommy and stepdad at the same time and also that he sleeps with them. He also refuses to eat anything healthy because they are constantly eating at fast food restaurants. His mommy also allows him to go to bed with a sippy cup that he drinks out of like a bottle. He is also allowed to rub his head for comfort and it has gotten so rough that is grows in like this. Am I worrying to much or is this normal?
2007-03-20 10:45:38 · 9 answers · asked by caringmomma8125 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Well he's your step son, so it lies with his parents to address the problems. Even though I think what they are doing is not exactly the right thing, its even more wrong of you to say anything. You will only make the mother angry and resentful. However when the child is visiting you at your house you are allowed to make your own house rules. Criticizing mom will only make matters worse for the child. I say lead by example and maybe the boy will take some of it home with him. It's tough being in a relationship where children from past relationships exist. I hope some of your critiques of the mother don't stem from a little jealousy. Tread lightly on these matters or you could end up loosing out on the relationship.
2007-03-20 11:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by Sunday P 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Showering with them is weird. He is getting to the age where he recognizes the difference between male and female...especially when the differences are right there in plain view. What it comes down to though is that you need to set rules for your house. It doesn't matter what he does at home...when he is at your house he needs to follow your rules. If that means sleeping in his own bed, no sippy cup in bed(he shouldn't have one at that age anyways), and eating healthy food, then so be it. You can't change what he does with his mom...even if it is weird and unhealthy.
2007-03-20 17:53:11 · answer #2 · answered by Mia1385 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try talking to them about this, it is certainly not healthy for a young child to be eating nothing but fast food & junk....child obesity can cause diabetes and other health problems, and they start at an early age. I certainly do not think you are overreacting.....especially about the showering with BOTH parents, that is weird....I could see if it was one of them, but both of them is weird, makes ya wonder if there are other things going on that he doesnt tell you...I would suggest talking to them about this. It sounds kinda serious....good luck!
2007-03-20 17:51:03 · answer #3 · answered by spaceyinla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time all of you get together and talk about how you want to raise your stepson. It might fall on deaf ears or all of you can have a great relationship knowing your raising your stepson together.
2007-03-20 17:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try talking about the problem with his father. It is his child too and he could contact the boys mother to talk things over.
2007-03-20 17:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Rosette H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to worry as we all have different views how we would like to bring our children up.Maybe you will buy him his own special cup take him with you to help to choose it--leave it at your house.Let him help you make meals or set the table maybe he will eat the food he helped to prepare.---good luck.
2007-03-20 17:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does his father have to say about any of this ??
i see many problems here i would make a call and have it looked in to
2007-03-20 22:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2007-03-20 17:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by ndmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your right to worry but i think you should talk to your husband about what to do about it.
2007-03-20 18:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by ♡ kalila♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋