I was at work yesterday, and I overheard my boss telling my coworker about an error I made. She was doing so in a rude manner, not really trying to find a solution, more so gossiping. I was so hurt and when I saw her face to face did not even want ot make eye contact with her. I think this is so unprofessional......what should I do or say. I don't think they know I heard. How do i deal at work knowing that anything I may do wrong or not up to her standards will be spread around the office rather than brought to my attention??
2007-03-20 10:39:50 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You need a hobby uab_ skinhead, obviously you did not read the whole question as your response was lame and without merit. You obviously just wanted the points for your answer.
2007-03-20 12:09:10 · update #1
I think it depends on your relationship with her and how bad it bothers you. If it doesn't bother you that much, I wouldn't really do anything about it. See, everybody else in the office isn't stupid. They know what she's like. The very fact that she's telling them all this stuff about you is a clear indication. So they probably discount most of what she says anyway. This is even more true if you make an effort to be friendly and hardworking with all the other people.
In other words, if they hear her say "Hilda messes up all the time" yet in every interaction they have with Hilda she's friendly, efficient, and smart, then they will discount what she says. What you should never do is fight back by talking to the other workers. They will just assume that it's a cat fight between the two of you and write you both off.
2007-03-20 10:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by Gary B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would go over her head if that were possible, And if not tell her directly that you over herd her berating you to anther employee, And if she has a problem with your work she should bring it directly to you, and not make it public notice, because you know the person she told is going to tell someone else and so on and so on. Nip it in the but. Do not let her/him humiliate you any further.
2007-03-20 15:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by mystictoad 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. Move on. Who Cares. Do you think your boss has time to worry about gossip?
it does not concern you. You are worrying about something that has not even happened yet. Further, if you make a mistake...so what...so everyone knows. WHOOPIE - DOO.
You need a hobby.
EDIT: No. I read the question. I still don't understand what you are whining about. You made a mistake. Your boss is talking about it behind your back...you think this is unprofessional. I still think you are worrying about nothing. This happens at every job, every where. That is life. Back to what I said. Get a hobby to concentrate on instead worrying about such insignificant and trivial items. This is small stuff, and you are sweating the small stuff. I personally like to work on motorcycles in my off time...and raise my kids. I don't have time to care if people are talking about me behind my back at work...nor do I care.
Thanks though.
2007-03-20 11:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by uab_skinhead 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
A. I draw force kind it. I most of the time try to prevent disagreement, but when I are aware of it is the correct factor to try this skills will supply me force to assignment a concern I suppose is unethical, even supposing it approach disagreement.
2016-09-05 09:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bring it up to your boss and tell her you feel bad that she would tell somebody else about your error and not bring to your attention directly. Don't be defensive about it and I am sure you can work it out.
2007-03-20 10:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by rbarc 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋