How does a guy behave if he's really into you? I believe he has fancied me for ages but he's not asking me out! He wants to know my romantic situation and asks serious searching questions about it like if my ex is definately an ex now and if I am bothered that he has a new girlfriend. I keep saying I am single and ready for another relationship and lightly flirting with him. I am always polite and look into his eyes, I laugh with him and create opportunities but he's not following through! It appears like he's in love with me - my daughter (aged 13) saw us together once and he made a big effort to talk to her and she said "God Mom, he fancies you!" I have only ever had a relationship with my daughters Dad and he left quite a few years ago so I'm a bit clueless.I really fancy him too but I want to be clear that he's into me so I can maybe drop some more hints or ask him myself! Do you think he does?
2007-03-20 10:38:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wisdom tooth - you are reading between the lines wrongly. We have never had sex nor even kissed..
2007-03-21 01:07:28 · update #1
You are wondering whether this guy is "really into you". By that I presume you are wondering whether he is intent on a serious committed relationship. From your question I suspect you've fancied him "for ages" too, and you two have already indulged in uncommitted sexual intercourse. But I might be wrong. I could be reading too much between the lines.
From his questions about your ex, it appears like he's testing out whether the shadows of the past will keep haunting you after you commit yourselves to each other. If you are in touch with your ex (e.g. he pays child-maintenance, or you meet to discuss your daughter's school progress, etc.), it's best to make things clear.
I can understand your predicament as he seems to be only the second man in your life, and that too after a number of years of single living. I would trust your daughter's feelings. Children can be very perceptive about these things, and your daughter sees something which you are PREVENTING YOURSELF from seeing. It's perfectly understandable. You are looking at your situation from the inside, and are, understandably, nervous. Your view is, expectedly a little blurred by your own past life and feelings. She's looking at it from the outside and her view is, perhaps, clearer. It also looks like she is willing to have him in her life, which you should take as a very, very positive signal.
You say you fancy him. Then I suggest YOU take the first bold step. You have already indicated to him that you're single and ready for another relationship. Now be more positive. Tell him that you DESIRE to get into a relationship WITH HIM. Sometimes you need to push the ball just a little to get it rolling. Go ahead and push it. I don't think you'll be disappointed.
Your daughter will support you. Ask her first, though, if she would like him as a step-dad, just in case things move in that direction.
Good luck. You deserve a seond chance. We all do.
2007-03-20 11:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by wisdom tooth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he asks a personal question like "Is your ex still an ex?" reply with "Why do you ask? Do you know of a possible suitor?" Flirt in a more direct way. He is either seducing you, which is clearly working, or it is the opposite and he's just a harmless flirt. Either way, you're going to have to be more direct to get to the bottom of things. Good Luck!
2007-03-20 11:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes you, ask the guy out for a drink - if he says no he is seeing someone, then tell him you meant as friends, tell him that you spend so much time round your daughter that its nice to have an adult conversation once in a while, he will appreciate that and it wont make you feel foolish on the really small chance he isnt interested
but to me he is really into you, but he might think you are too good for him
2007-03-20 10:49:12 · answer #3 · answered by laneyb_1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going by what you said....I think he does fancy you now the question is how much? and what is his situation?
Maybe you should hang in there and try to get closer slowly and see how he reacts, it could also be that he sees you as a friend!
2007-03-20 10:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by Ray354 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do think that he is sounding you out perhaps he is frightened of rejection. Why dont you ask him out for a coffee, cinema etc. you will really know where you stand with him then. I think he will eventually get round to asking you out, that is if he is single himself. Good luck
2007-03-20 11:38:16 · answer #5 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
certainly sounds like he is in to you! he probably understands your situation and is scared to over step boundries case he upsets you or scares you off! if you like him why dont you ask him out???
it doesnt always have to be the guy asking plus youll be amazed how great it feels when they say yes
and if he does say no at least youll no where you stand but go for it!
2007-03-20 10:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by SWANNY AND SNUGGLES! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.But since hes not picking up on the lines and hints being thrown into his face basically,ask him yourself.They always say "If you want something done right,do it yourself."
2007-03-20 10:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep sounds like he fancies you.
go on be brave and make the first move.
2007-03-20 10:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by Stu pid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes trying to find out if hes in for a knock back before asking!! tell him straight if ur interested and he will ask you out!! give him ur email or mobile number or even a myspace page if hes shy then he can ask u quicker!
2007-03-20 10:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah he does, but let him chase a little...try not to seem too keen, and almost that you are in demand - should work a treat ;)
good luck x
2007-03-20 10:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋