I'm the mother of 3 energetic sons who enjoy testing me and my husband. Their ages are 8, 4, and 19 months. The oldest one loves to start all the trouble, the middle one is the one who whines the most and comes crying after his big bro picks on him, and the baby is impossible to get to sleep. I love my little men to death lol but the bad thing is that my husband and I RARELY get any alone time if ya know what I mean. We're so beat by the end of the day, and even if... one of the kids is lible to come in to the room, as they frequently do in the middle of the night.
Any advice to help me out? :)
2007-03-20 10:35:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well for one thing get a lock for your door! ;)
We have four children and hubbies in the Army so I really do understand how tired you can be...... do you have set bedtimes so you can have time with Dad in the evening? Can you swap date nights with a friend? (even if it's just 1 hour at a local book store) Maybe start once a month and then once a week? Grandma nearby? Try to look for creative solutions as well --- a video downstairs and a little afternoon delight upstairs can work wonders!
The other thing is to journal -- try to remember that they're all still little and it will get better!
2007-03-20 10:44:27 · answer #1 · answered by ArmyWifey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your local church to recommend some youth from the congregation that might want to babysit. Try a few out several times just to come over between dinner and bedtime to see how your kids get along with them. Tell the sitter that you will be around the house doing yardwork or whatever little things you need to get done so that if they run into REAL problems you are there to bail them out. You may only want to pay them 1/2 the usual rate in this case. Once you find someone who really clicks with the kids, and the boys are used to the sitter, you take an evening out for dinner, or a movie . Then if you want to REALLY have a life again, you book a hotel room in your city and book the sitter to stay for an overnighter. You will be reachable, you will know the sitter ( and hopefully trust them by then), the kids will be looking forward to having the sitter come over , and last but not least YOU have a night , a whole night with your spouse again.........in a room where no one will come a knocking at the door!!
2007-03-20 10:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by carnivale4ever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FIRST - YOU need to choose who you are married to, your kids or your husband. If you choose your husband than, the SECOND - thing you need to do is put a lock on your bedroom door. THIRD - use the lock on the times you both want some alone time. FOURTH - break the kids habit of sleeping in your bed at any time. FIFTH - If you can swap with other couples, babysitting for each other, take turns. And go out and have some alone time. Go out to dinner, have a picnic and watch the sunset, or go to a motel and just relax and enjoy each other!
2007-03-20 11:44:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh boy this is my husband and I in a nutshell....
What we do is put them to bed early, so we have time together after 9 pm or so. Also, every other friday night is our date night, my 23 yr old sister comes over to babysit and the boys just love her. Even if they don't immediately go to sleep, make sure they're shut in their room quietly so you can get some time for just the 2 of you.
I know, 3 boys is tough and mine are about the same age. Hopefully this or something else works for you!
2007-03-21 09:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by Kristen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Tell them in no uncertain terms that from the time daddy gets home (or mommy...whoever gets home later) there will be grave punishment for anyone who disturbs you for 1/2 hour unless they are bleeding or something is on fire. This will give you time to talk about the day. Send them to their rooms and use the living room for this. We call it "couch time". AND follow through on the dire consequences...give it teeth!
2. Put a lock on your bedroom door, and tell them just as firmly that if the door is locked, the only time they even think about knocking is (again) blood or fire. We never lock ours until they have been put to bed; once that happens they are expected to stay there until called for.
It's not meanness. It's Marriage Survival.
2007-03-20 10:47:29 · answer #5 · answered by dBalcer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 07:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start warming up throughout the evening (initiating the launch sequence). Get yourselves ready to go. This way if you find yourselves with 20 mins or so, you are good to go.
Not very romantic, but it gets the job done. Otherwise, hire a sitter to keep the kids in another room.
2007-03-20 10:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by Water Monkey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you and your husband must have time together,if a child comes into your room at night take it back to their own bed,it will be hard to do this --but the child will soon learn and realize not to wake up during the night, we have a Surestart in our area for parents who are having problems with under age school children.Lots of support,advise and help when needed,also home visits are made.Hope there is one in your area.good luck.
2007-03-20 10:48:46 · answer #8 · answered by mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's all about timing-we have 3 kids 8, 6, and 4-- and we sneak moments--sometimes my hubby says they have a radar-haha, but if you really are in need of time with your hubby and it's that important to you all, make the time-your relationship is that important--so sleep might have to wait an hour or two!
2007-03-20 10:40:50 · answer #9 · answered by WWJD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a babysitter, go out to dinner and during the night if you feel frisky lock the bedroom door.
2007-03-20 10:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by MidnightRain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋