im a loser. i always feel to sorry for myself. and iv never been in a relationship. ever. and im EIGHTEEN. is there something wrong with me???? im a bit chubby. a size 12/14. and im not hideously ugly or anything. im ok looking. and im an ok person.
2007-03-20 10:32:30 · 19 answers · asked by MEE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no there's nothing wrong with you. the reason you may not have had a boyfriend is nothing to do with your size, I can assure you. 12/14 isn't big, it's a nice healthy size. It may be to do with your lack of confidence. Would you be attracted to someone who felt sorry for themselves, had no confidence and didn't talk much to people? People are attracted to confidence and a nice sense of humour. Try making more friends at work or college or by joining clubs and build up your confidence. Once you're happier in yourself a boyfriend will come naturally
2007-03-20 10:37:45 · answer #1 · answered by G*I*M*P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. I felt exactly the same at your age and you have nothing to worry about.
At 17/18 I was a size 12 and felt fat and unwanted, and was still a virgin.
Take your time. Do things when YOU feel ready.
Go out and get to meet people, get to know them first. And the rest will follow.
It worked for me.
I'm 34 now (probably old to you, but being 17/ 18 is still fresh in my memory) and leading a normal, happy married life!
You will be fine. Have fun and I wish you well!!! SJC.
2007-03-20 17:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by sarahjanec 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
awe!! first of all. And secondly being a size 12 to 14 is a healthy size, what are you talking about? I'm sure that if you have a lack of esteem it may not be seen as complete attractiveness to the opposite sex. And that in turn would highten your lack of confidence even more; but to be honest it might just be that you have either been at the wrong place at the wrong time, or you just haven't met someone compatible with you. Please don't worry to much, some people around your age haven't even lost their virginity, even if they have had a relationship.
Theres many people in the world who are all different shapes, sizes and colours - But even celebs aren't totally gorgeous underneath all that make-up, and diets, they look just like you and me. But the reason they pull it off, is because when they are in the limelight they show off their sophistication and persona (hint I say persona). Think of life as your limelight, no one else is living your life, in your clothes, in your body, or have your emotions, and its your choice with what you want to do with it - if everyone else has the right to to do that, why can't you? Guess what? you are beautiful, seriously; I'm sure any decent girl/guy, would love to be with you, purely because of your soul. I have my own flaws, and I'm sure all the community on here have their own, its just the way it is, but learn to like yourself as a package - no one else on earth is like you, and you arent like them. Everyone has the right to be themselves.
Now get your **** out there now and show the world what you're made of!!! Make yourself proud!
x
2007-03-20 19:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww honey! a size 12/14 is fine! the average is 16 so dont put yourself done with words like chubby!!
maybe your trying to hard??? my best mate had her first bf a year ago before that she went from guy to guy so no guy seen her as the type to settle down! but when she did she was over the moon and she relaised that she didnt need a man to keep her happy and that there was nothing wrong with her she just hadnt found the right guy!
you will one day
2007-03-20 17:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by SWANNY AND SNUGGLES! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 17 all my friends talked non-stop about having sex... they were all doing it (so they said) & I felt left out... I didn't have the sense to realise I was a late developer... I wasn't really that interested in sex... so I allowed all that to pressure me... & I ended up losing my virginity to someone who wasn't right for me... which led to worse times.
2 different things - sex & feeling loved. Your home life should be making you feel loved & secure so you have confidence & the right type of healthy motivation. That should be your firm foundation. Then when you get proposals, you only accept for the right reasons...
I just wonder what else is going on in your life cos you sound like you're running on empty...
What is making you think you're a loser?? Is that simply because you are not bonking your brains out & boasting non-stop to your "all my mates..." Or there is something else going on, that is reducing your self-esteem??
2007-03-20 17:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your not a loser, you lack confidence, join a club or gym to make new friends and build your confidnce, the right guy will come along soon, remember you are only young
and a size 12/14 isnt chubby, thats the size i am and my man loves it - all men want a girl with a curvy body
good luck honey x
2007-03-20 17:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by laneyb_1983 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt you are a loser. Don't feel sorry for yourself! There is nothing wrong with you, you are only 18 and have your whole life ahead of you. You have plenty of time to go out am meet people. DON'T be in such a rush, you will meet that special someone. In the mean time just have fun and relax, maybe ask that girl you like out on a date and take it from there. The girls just aren't going to crawling to you, they usually wait to be asked in most cases. So go ahead ask her already!
2007-03-20 17:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by Gabrielle 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i realy wouldnt worry to much as long as you are happy just get on with your life who needs to be in a serious realationship any way all it does is cause you heart ache so as long as you are healthy just enjoy your life and dont worry one day you will find someone and if you do make sure that it is the rite one for you just live your life and dont worry there is nothing wrong with you good luck and stop worrying you are not a loser
2007-03-20 18:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Still young and able to have fun and look for love the right person will come along but you will have heart broken before you find mr right. It is not what is on the outside it is what is inside that counts.
2007-03-20 17:39:50 · answer #9 · answered by saucey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing wrong with you is that you don't love yourself. you say you're ok looking and a ok person and call yourself a loser.. believe in yourself and make it ok to be on your own - if you don't then you'll be all dependent when you're in a relationship and this could cause big problems.
good luck & best wishes xxx
2007-03-20 17:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by aria 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋