Please help! Can I relieve the physical symptoms of grief?

Question

Our 5-month-old baby died last month from pneumonia and so of course we are still grieving for her since it has only been a month. In the past 2 weeks I've been experiencing anxiety-related symptoms like trembling, nausea, feelings of tightness (or a suffocating feeling) in my chest and neck, etc. (These are not cardiac-related, I've checked). Does anyone know how I might relieve these? I know I have a lot more crying and grieving to go, but some of the physical symptoms it's causing are making it hard to function with my daily life. I am very busy at home with two toddlers, but I'm blessed to have a husband and family who are very supportive. Any help or advice is appreciated. God bless you all.

Answer 1

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I will pray for you, your husband and family. I am the mother of three and my heart aches for you.

I hope this helps. Emotions are ENERGIES IN MOTION in our bodies. Grief is probably the strongest emotion we feel.

Every time you don't allow yourself or you aren't allowed to fully experience an emotion, to feel it, and to move through it, the energy of that emotion becomes stopped and blocked in your body. It remains blocked until you go back and re-experience that emotion. Then the energetic block is freed and cleared. Virtually all of our physical ailments come from energetic blocks in our bodies, energetic patterns that are connected to our emotional patterns

One easy and smooth way to release emotions is to use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) or Emotional Tapping. In EFT you apply gentle accupressure tapping to specific body points to release blocked emotions. EFT is easy to learn (you can learn the basics in 15-30 minutes). You can use EFT anytime, anywhere for any emotional or physical issue. One basic round of EFT takes about one minute. EFT works quickly and is painless.

I'm not saying EFT will take away all of your pain and grief, but it will help to relieve your anxiety related symptoms and help you to function in your daily live.

Please download the FREE EFT Instructional manual from the EFT website (www.emofree.com).

I learned how to use EFT last year and now use it everyday. EFT really works.

Answer 2

I am so very sorry. There's no way anyone could relate to your grief but other parents who have lost a child. I went with a friend who'd lost a teenager to a weekly group of grieving families . Her church let us use the room. She said that was the best mental therapy she'd ever had. Always came away with good thoughts & memories. As far as you physical symptoms, it sounds like Panic Attacks. My niece has the exact symptoms you are describing. Her Doctor put her on Xanax & she can finally get out of the house. I wil pray for you & your family in this time of sorrow. God bless you.

Answer 3

Bless your heart, I am so very sorry for your loss. The symptoms you're experiencing are caused by your anxiety which is completely understandable. The only suggestion I have is to see a psychologist well versed in grief therapy. I'm not one for medication, but in extreme cases such as this, a mild tranquilizer may help. I understand how busy you are with the toddlers but you need to care for yourself, as well. Obviously, the emotional pain is overwhelming and professional advice may be helpful, if for no other reason than to talk to someone outside of the family where you feel safe to just let it all out. God bless you and your family, I'll keep you in my prayers.

Answer 4

Oh may the angels bless you for your journey.
Breathing deeply more often might help.
Check out this website. www.emofree.com
This is not a cure all (although some claim it to be), but simply a tool for releasing the symptoms that you are feeling. The tapping of the meridians, whilst talking about the symptoms will help. I have tried it often.
I am not suggesting you use eft to clear your grief, just the physical pain.
I send you love and light.

Answer 5

It is right to grieve but if we let our minds get full of the chemicals from grief we lose the ability to think. It is useful for death grief to create images of those gone to heaven like make a scrapbook for the baby with everything in it you ever thought while carrying the baby. For adults I think it is good to put their name on things like a tree or a car but not on the wall. Make it so you see their name several times a day for a year. Your saving grace is built in with your family unless it is really a false structure and that is what your mind is picking up unconsciously. Then you have to deal with yourself actually as an outsider in a social group.

Answer 6

First, i am so sorry about your loss. I have a breathing technique that may help with the physical symptoms and your anguish. Hopefully you will be able to do them with being busy with your little ones. Lie down or sit comfortably. Breathe in your nose for a slow count of 7 then hold it for 4 seconds, then exhale through pursed lips for the count of 8.
Try this for a couple of minutes or until you feel more relaxed.
I hope this helps.

Answer 7

Try to breath during those times of anxiety. Focusing on the breath can naturally slow the heart rate, improve blood pressure and reduce stress levels.

Breath slowly in through your nose gently constricting the opening of the throat to create some resistance to the passage of air, like you would with a whisper. It will sound something like the sound of ocean waves rolling in and out.

Try not to take your grief out on others. Good luck and God bless...

Answer 8

I am so sorry.

I would join a grief support group. There are MANY parents out there who either are going through this or have gone through it and can help you get through it, too. Call your local hospital. The volunteers at the information desk will have a list of all the area support groups.

I'll say a prayer for your baby.

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