I'd like to hear what people think, and perhaps end my debate with my sister.
Is it acceptable to date the sibling of someone you dated at some point in the past? Why or why not? Other factors that would make it OK in one situation, but NOT OK in another?
2007-03-20 10:30:57 · 12 answers · asked by Andi 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not dating my ex's brother, and I don't want to. As I stated in the original question, I'm debating this topic with my sister and want views from other people.
2007-03-20 10:37:11 · update #1
It's not okay at all to date a sibling of someone you used to date in the past.
First of all, why would you date an ex's sibling? What makes it wrong is the two our blood and what happens if the ex gets upset about the situation, then the current would have to choose and why put someone in that position.
Secondly, who would be scandalous enough to put themselves in a position of dating siblings? Is that a turn on for them or are they that desperate to have soemeone in their lives that they would disrespect themselves that much?
2007-03-20 10:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on the kind of relationship you had with your Ex.
If you were dating the guy for a decent ammount of time and you got to know his family really well and they were comfortable with you, I'd say it'd probably be really weird. It's hard for people to take a relationship like that seriously after you've already attempted to make it work with the other brother.
If you were only dating for a brief ammount of time and maybe you never met the family, it would probably be a lot easier.
Also, if you guys had a really good relationship or if you told him things you'd never told anyone, got really close, were best friends, etc. It's probably going to be really strange for both men to be that close to you, being brothers and all.
If you didnt have that great of a relationship, it may still turn out not so good because your Ex may not approve or he may bad-mouth you to the brother.
To be honest, most men will chose their family over a lover, rightfully. Furthermore, most of the men I know probably dont have a lot of respect for you if you're gonna date two brothers, and you should really make sure not to make a fool out of yourself by putting a lot of effort into a one-sided relationship. The brother probably just wants to sleep with you and even if he does have feelings for you, he'd probably be too embarrassed/have too much pride to allow himself to have a real relationship with someone his brother dated.
In my personal opinion, the only situation that may be worth it is if you really love the brother and plan on marrying him, and it doesnt sound like one of those situations. Also consider that there are PLENTY of men out there, and again - unless you are intending on marrying this person, you should probably redirect your energy to someone who has the opportunity to reciprocate his feelings for you, without complications.
2007-03-20 11:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay Andi their is 2 things you did wrong in this situation. First of all you shouldn't be dating anyone that you had previous relations with SIBLING because that is just nasty. Ask yourself... can you see yourself marrying this man.. if not whats the point of being labled a "nasty girl" and by far many other mean names. Plus if you do see yourself marrying this man think of how it will affect his relationship with his brother?
2007-03-20 10:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Um, I think it would most definitely be awkward and might cause some controversy between the brother/brother thing, but it should be fine. If you like your ex's brother then go for it. There's a reason he's an ex and maybe his brother has something better to offer.
Good luck! ;-)
2007-03-20 10:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really do like someone, then I would expect everyone around you to understand if you date the person. Irregardless to who they're related to.
However, if you run into problems with it, you may want to date someone else for a while to let things cool down.
2007-03-22 17:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by Mark V 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u find the ex attractive, then go ahead and try to get with them..that depend if u like who they are and their personality..there is nothing wrong with dating a ex's brother..but it might make the ex a lil jealous
2007-03-20 10:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, i don't like it just because if it gets more serious you will always be know by your future family also as the brothers first girl-friend until brother nr.2 took over....
doesn't sound right....
if its just for a one-night-stand...just knock yourself out! lol
2007-03-20 10:35:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes why not as long as you are broke up with the ex first.
2007-03-20 10:35:52 · answer #8 · answered by bluemist 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you think he's hot then it's ok. I'm mean do you really care about your ex's feelings.
2007-03-20 10:36:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think not. His willingness to to date you should speak volumes about what he's all about.
2007-03-20 10:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by Rick W 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋