& he just left a note asking his dad to come but not bring me I honestly think it has to do with his mother and his age and all the new surroundings such as new baby which he seems to LOVE very much but I dont know what to do? He hates my daughter which is 6 & I try so hard to be the step mom & freind but he is so disrespectful to me when his dad isnt home i dont know how to handle this and only want to have a faimly what is the best way to handle this? What should we do?
2007-03-20 10:29:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
first of all he is 13 does his dad spend a lot of time with him? If he doesn't he is probably resent full of you and thinks that you took his mom away from his dad and secretly blames you for it. you and his mom need to take him somewhere nice and just the 3 of you and be nice and talk to him and try to find out what is bothering him. This is crucial because if his school work is suffering it could cause a downward spiral in his life so be careful and be loving to him. Good luck!@
2007-03-20 10:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by ken j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait...what are you the fiance or step-mom?
If you have not gotten married...don't. Do not marry this man, the boy will make your and his life miserable. There isn't anything you can do that will fix this and it will take too long for it to change. Move on.
This is just too much drama and there are men that don't have it and will love you just the same. Why take the hard road when the easy one will get you to the same place?
2007-03-20 10:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been ther with my kids, they can't stand their new stepmom!!!!!!! i made it clear to them that they nedd to be happy that their dad has someone in his life that loves him and that they r NOT in charge of who their dad is with. maybe your fiance needs to have a sitdown with his son as well and tell him that he loves u and u r not going anywheres. make sure the sons understands how his being disrespectful and hateful towards u and your daughter hurts his dad deeply, which is probably the last thing he really wants to do. also make sure u do not play favorites, like buy stuff for your daughter and he gets nothing, show him he is part of the family and just as important as his siblings even if he doesn't live with u. all that helped mine a great deal, still not perfect but it eased the tensions a lot.......gl
2007-03-20 10:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by germanygirl_us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you stop trying to be his
mom. He has a mom and may resent you trying
to take her place. He may be hoping that his
parents will get back together and he could be trying to scare you away so they can. His dad
needs to talk with him. That 13 year old is confused and hurting. Only his dad can help. Just
be a mom to your other kids and give this kid some space.
2007-03-20 10:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by Precious Gem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you are sorry that he doesn't like you or your daughter, but you are not goingto be treated disrespectfully in your own home. tell him he doesn't have to be loving or super nice but he does have to respect you because you respect him. if it really hurts himthat you are getting married thenyou should talk to your fiance and let him know what is going on. take this from a14 year old who has a stepdad and a real dad.
2007-03-20 10:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His father should make sure he is respecting you. But then on the other hand children of blended families have problems because everything in their lives are chosen for them and everything changes. I would suggest you have your husband have some one on one time with his son to find out exactly what it is that is bothering him. Maybe he feels you took his dad away from him so he takes it out on you. There are ways to fix the problems but you have to dig to find out what they are.
Best of luck!
2007-03-20 10:36:01 · answer #6 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to your fiance and have him handle it.
2007-03-20 10:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋