It's been 8 months and I love my boyfriend dearly. There isn't a day that goes by where I don't miss him like crazy even though we both live in the dorms. But we are away from eachother all day due to our classes. I'm 21 and he's 19 and he recently applied for a job but to me that means he won't have any time for me, because knowing him if he's not with me he'll be playing his guitar with his family or friends. I don't want to be selfish and say that I want him all to myself because that just wouldn't be right. I've told him that when he does start working that he won't have time for me, but he tells me that he will it was a promise. It still makes me insecure though. I mean I can't imagine not being with him. I love the time we spend together. I've never felt this way about anyone before. And to lose him would be so heartbreaking to me. He tells me I'm not gonna lose him but I still get scared. What should I do? I know I want to stay with him and visa versa.
2007-03-20 10:23:05 · 7 answers · asked by girl_is_depeche 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to stop stressing....nothing is going to change with you and your man....hes gonna get a job every man need a job so you need to be happy for him...n you should be happy you get to see him....i live over 2 hours away from my boyfriend and im lucky if i get to see him every other weekend...so you need to stop being selfish and trust that your relationship will last..... if it hurts being away from him then do something to occupy your time... mayb you could get a job (if you dont already have one) or pick up a hobby meet new people.... if your doing something else you wont be stressing so much that your man isnt with you all the time...good luck
2007-03-20 10:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't take offense to anything I say, I'm trying to be as honest as possible.
I used to be the same way with my boyfriend, it's definitely not healthy - it's dependent behavior. Make new friends, go out more, have hobbies that you do on your own. Your boyfriend shouldn't have to be there 24/7 to entertain you.
You being clingy might even drive him away. I'm being honest, not hurtful. A guy likes confidence, not an insecure, needy girl. Have your own life outside of him and you will feel better about yourself, and in turn have a better relationship with your boyfriend.
It may be hard to seperate yourself from him, but stick with it. Really try, it will be worth it in the long run. Nothing ends a relationship quicker than being with someone 24/7.
2007-03-20 17:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well be lucky that he lives in the same town as u i know how hard it is to miss a boyfriend mine lives 334 miles from me and i see him maybe once a month or when he can make it down or i can make it up there and i miss him a lot there isnt a day when im not with him that i dont miss him and want to be with him but i know that i will see him soon again and i have to deal with it so u will just have to try to deal with it and see him when he can see u and if he cant make time for u then he isnt worth ur time
2007-03-20 17:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by Someoneslilgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him you'll have faith in him as a person. Guys don't think like girls when it comes to relationships. He might things are going well and you might things are going poorly due to the lack of time being spent. Communcaiton is important. Tell him how you feel and work out a solution. Hope that helps.
2007-03-20 17:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 11 months now. And, when he first got a job it was the same way. I felt he wouldn't he time for me anymore. He also promised me he would. So I put my trust in him and it turns out he does make time for me alot still. So... just trust him he will make time for you!
2007-03-20 17:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by shortie_love53 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are not going to like what I'm about to say..but...you will lose him ..you are going to smother him..and him being as young as he is... will break it off with you..he had a Mother ..he does not need another one...you are insecure..and should work on that problem to stay in this relationship...good luck.
2007-03-20 17:35:27 · answer #6 · answered by whirangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hobby. You may chase him away. Let him be 19.
Old wise saying; If you love someone dont hold them too tight. Hold them with an open palm and if they love you, they will always return.
2007-03-20 17:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by jr8551_us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋