i have been with my boyfriend for a year now when he splitt with his ex he was really upset but then we got together everythings fine appart from the fact that he still calls me her name is this normal or is he still thinking of her
2007-03-20 10:19:59 · 29 answers · asked by strawberries and cream 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
bad habit.
to break him of it, just start calling him by a girl's name every time he does it
2007-03-20 10:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by mikehunt29 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was with my ex for six years and when I got together with my fiance, I was making the odd Freudian slip and calling him by my ex's name but this only went on for the first few months and it really was an accident. It was normally when we were bickering or he annoyed me, which just showed that I did not think of my ex at intimate times just the bad ones! I am bad at calling people by others names but I knew it annoyed my fiance, obviously! I think after such a time as you two, he should be over it by now. I was not constantly thinking of my ex so who knows why he keeps doing it. Talk to him and express how bad this makes you feel, he needs to get this sorted!
2007-03-21 12:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've called my bofriend by my ex's name a couple of times. It happens, mostly just out of habit. If he was with her for a really long time, then it's probably just a name he was used to. The main issue would be how often he does this, and when. Is it during romantic times? In the heat of passion? Or more like, hey honey, pass the butter. And also, if it's a couple of slips, it's totally forgivable. If he is doing this everyday, then he's probably not over her yet.
2007-03-20 17:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by Natalia O 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course its not normal. Once may be just a slip of the tongue, but youve been with him for a year and hes still calling you by her name. Its totally disrespectful. If I was you Id have it out with him and tell him that he has to stop it. If he doesnt then you should finish with him. To get your point across, start calling him your exs name
2007-03-20 19:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by fallenangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have almost done that myself but only if i ha been with my ex for a few years an it was EASY to catch the slip up, his mind should be in the present with YOU, if u have similar names ask him to think about what hes saying first and that its annoying as heck for him to *forget* your name, its not bloody hard to get someones name right is it? especially if u have been together for a year!! try calling him someone elses name and see how he flips out, then tell him NOW u know how i feel when u do it to me, learn my name or at least call me pooky or you'll end up single!!
2007-03-20 17:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could just be habit, but to be honest, that's a pretty long time. He should make effort to not call you by his ex's name cos that's not only insensitive but disrespectful too. I think in order for someone to do that, the other person has to be in their life/on their mind quite a bit. I know that's not what you wanna hear, but you need to tell him that it ain't cool anymore, and he has to stop.If he doesn't, then know your worth and realise he ain't the one for you.
2007-03-20 17:36:08 · answer #6 · answered by Dee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LIKE IT OR NOT, HIS EX IS PART OF HIS PERSONAL HISTORY, JUST AS YOU ARE ALSO. HE'S STILL LIVING A LITTLE IN THE PAST, AND YOU CAN'T PREVENT THAT. DON'T TRY EITHER. IT'S A FREUDIAN SLIP, AND I DON'T THINK YOU SHOULD READ TOO MUCH INTO IT.
JUST MAKE SURE HIS EX IS REALLY HIS EX, AND HAS NO CHANCE OF BEING PROMOTED TO HIS "NEXT".
2007-03-20 19:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by wisdom tooth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he does it (I bet this has been going on a while and you have just acepted it right?!!) Tell him that is the last time next time I split up with YOU.
Mind you have to be prepared to back this up.
If it happens again - GO.
There is no excuse for this - his mind should be in the present with you and not the past. If it is that bad he should be willing to explain chapter and verse to you and apologise as well (and I reckon he has not done that either).
Good luck
2007-03-20 17:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi!
I'd say if he's still calling you by his ex's name a year on from the split - then she's clearly STILL very much on his mind!
I wouldn't consider it normal by any means!
Best of luck!
2007-03-20 17:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by Moofie's Mom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My ex gets married in three weeks, he still keeps calling his new 'wife' by my name. Fortunately she's not bothered!
And I know 100% there's nothing between us so I shouldn't think you need to worry!
2007-03-20 18:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by Fletch2066 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is totally not normal. It seems that he still has feelings for her. Find a guy that calls you by YOUR NAME. And lose the guy you have now.
2007-03-20 17:29:35 · answer #11 · answered by funhouse:+} 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋