ok...so i WAS dating this guy who after only a week of dating (we didnt even kiss yet) told em he loved me........when i broke up with him, he told me he loved me and he really cared for me.....but i dont think i should have believed him!!!!!
2007-03-20 10:17:30 · 18 answers · asked by cherie_ruth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Run girl Run!!!
2007-03-20 10:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by video novice 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are you and this boy. Love is a word with many different interpretations. Science has revealed that people actually can decide within the first few seconds, as little as ten, as to whether they are attracted to a person. Once, attracted and after an additional period of time, say an hour to two, a person can love a person. However, that love is founded on what they know to that point. Generally it is physical attraction and the fact that they feel it is mutual. If you really have known true love and have experienced it then whose to say that he didn't love you within his ability to understand what love is. He may not have your experience and he may have a different understanding of love althogether. You need to talk more about it together, if you have any feelings for him. Like is a starting point. True love they say comes with maturity, and in many instances doesn't come out to way late in life. Friends are often not friends. We use words to loosely in our day to day interactions. Example; we call people we like and know that we really don't have a true friendship with as a friend, when in fact they are just someone you know. A true friend walks in when everyone else has walked out on you in a time of need. How many friends do you have now? The same thing applies to love. This young man may love you in his mind but if he does he will try and remain close and become a friend, then a close friend, then a true friend, and then you both may feel love.
2007-03-20 17:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by hazel a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be REALLY careful. This guy is a total wacko. He's living in some kind of fantasy world in which he imagines you to be whatever his sick head says you are and that's what he loves. He fantasizes about you alot I'm sure. You just don't love somebody after a week. Be careful. He probably has stalker tendencies as well as violent tendencies. Run, run, run, run, run, run for the hills and don't look back.
2007-03-20 17:22:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this happened to me before.... it didnt turn out to good. I eventually realized that he was controling and posessive. it was a bad relationship from begining to end. so you might have done the right thing by leaving.
however if you two were friends for a while before dating then it is very possible that he did love you and really cared about you. so next time just let time take its toll but listen to your heart at the same time. if something is telling you to leave then get out of it before things escalate to something you cant handle.
good luck with future relationships.
2007-03-20 17:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by Toria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy one. Just ask him what he means by saying that. In addition, ask him to describe who you are. It's almost impossible to discover much about a person in one week.
Clearly what he is saying and what you are hearing are completely different. He is at that awkward stage. He is using words without realizing that the other person attaches huge definitions to some of them.
For instance, he may just want to date you more exclusively and you are hearing it as a marriage proposal - worlds apart in definition.
2007-03-20 17:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to decipher who is honest and who isn't, but it is possible that he could have actually been sincere when he told you this. My boyfriend (now fiance) told me within a week that he loved me, and we had just met. Now we are getting married. As hard as it is to believe there are guys out there that are honest and not just saying they love you in order to get you to sleep with them.
2007-03-20 17:26:56 · answer #6 · answered by Meesh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your probably right that's not enought time to fall in love he mite like you alot but love WOW !!!!!!!!!!! Love is caring sharing you'll know trust your heart your gut it's a sure sign just be prepared to go slow to know this person ya' no.........
2007-03-20 17:23:33 · answer #7 · answered by Toni H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right to not believe him. You don't "love" someone you've been going out with for a week.
2007-03-20 17:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from this guy!! This is one of the signs of a potential abuser; they rope you in tight right away and then begin to alienate you from your friends and family. You were right to break up with him, and right to question his motives!
2007-03-20 17:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by Libra68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love does not happen in a week, there's a catch to this guy and i suggest you don't stick around to find out
2007-03-20 17:20:51 · answer #10 · answered by Darby B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Email me the whole story please!This tiny info isn't much answering since you didn't give us much info.My email is at leslie185@yahoo.com .
2007-03-20 17:23:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋