18 month old and pregnat again, advice please!!!!?

Question

i am 32 weeks preg and i have an 18 month old son. my second should be born in may. my son is clingy and will NOT let me out of his sight!! :) which can be cute, but when you cant go to the bathroom alone, it gets a lil.......old. but im worried about when i have my second child. seeing that my son is such a mamas boy, an i hate sayin it like that, it sounds bad, and its not his fault, im a stay at home mom and he doesnt really see anyone else but me all day long. is it going to be very hard on him when the new baby is here? i worried about me being able to give him the quality time that i want to. my husband is due to dploy a month or so after the baby is born, so its kinda all on me for a year, and i dnt wnt either of them to feel left out or that i am ignoring one of them. im juz worried how my son will take it!!! i know tos of peope deal with this kinda thing and its very do able, but so advice please!!!!! :)

Answer 1

My children are 13 months apart them they miss being 14 months about by a week.
It's important that you get some help. So you can spend some alone time with your son. Just mommy and him time. It's hard enough handling two with the daddy around let alone being the only one. Please try and get some help not just for alone time with your son but for alone time for you.
Good luck and congrats on your little bundle.

Answer 2

When i was carrying my 2nd son i gave my 18 mth old a baby doll to take care of...i would tell him that now he has a baby just like the baby in Mommys bely another thing i did was get him involved with any prep for the baby ...i know they arent very good at it but it seemed to make him happy to h!!ave a part of this.. it was hard in the beginning especially nursing Ben would try to push the baby away and said "my mommy" sorry dont mean to freak you out but it didnt last long and he was all good with the new baby...i am a stay at home Mom too and its hard for first borns to have to share what they consider their property!! Its fun though as they get older they play together so well and because they are so close in age they have lots in commen and the youngest thinks his big bro is all that!! just be prepared to have little one always on your hip out of little guys reach...it will be great!!

Answer 3

I had a similar situation, except my daughter was 18 months old when my 2nd child came along, I also was an at home mom--I actually went through a little bout of post partum depression for about 3 days, feeling that I had cheated my daughter by having my son so soon after her. I was also concerned because she was a big mama's girl (I think all first borns probably are) BUT after her little brother was born she actually was interested in having someone new in the home, and felt the need to be the 'big sister' --so she tried to be more independent. Have you tried to prepare him for the new baby with books on big brothers and just by encouraging him to be a little more independent, maybe talk about the importance of being a big brother, it might be a little difficult, considering his age-but with my own, it worked. I am actually glad mine were so close in age, they are best of friends--(they're 8 and 6 now)....good luck and God bless!

Answer 4

My sister was 14 months old when I was born She was a little clingy too from what I've heard. After my mom got home from the hospital, my sis wouldn't talk to her for the whole day because she was mad at her for leaving. But then she saw she had a little baby sister and my mom couldn't peel her away from me. She would walk in circles around me all day saying, "Sissy? Sissy?" and would put my binkies back in when they fell out. My mom said she was worried at first but my sis turned out to be very helpful. And we both turned out to be very helpful when we got a baby brother 2 years later.
My friends kid got a baby brother when he was 3. At first, he didn't like him. It was his dads kid (not his moms) and when he went to visit his dad, he would pay more attention to the baby than him. But then he heard the baby start to cry and he started bringing everything over to his stepmom saying, "Maybe he wants this. Maybe he wants that." He now loves his little brother and gives him hugs and kisses every time he sees him.
It might be a little hard at first, but he'll warm up to the idea of having a little brother or sister. Just make sure you let him help out and give him as much attention as you can to let him know you still love him and that will not change no matter how many babies mommy might have.

Answer 5

Well first of all i want to congratulate you on your new baby to come, and also wish you the very best with your two kids. Also i would like to wish the very best to your husband on his deployment and a safe return home when its time. I would if i was in your shoes get a little help from friends or family starting now. Maybe go out a couple of hours a day so that your child will get used to being a little more independant. i know he is still very young, but he does not always have to be with you. it will give you a little break and may help him out when your new baby comes. also he might start helping you out with baby stuff and when the baby is born, maybe you can get him to help you with the baby. getting diapers, wipes, etc. hope everything turns out fine.

Answer 6

I was told when I had this concern (3yr old and newborn) to buy my son a baby doll that looked like a newborn and to let him do everything I did for his brother to his baby(I know some think a doll for a boy is wrong but I think if boys had dolls they would learn to be better fathers later in life ) . This taught him to be gentle and it also kept him busy when I had to tend to the baby. He also learned that when our babies took their naps he and I could have our big boy time. I also had to by a doll stroller and a doll carseat (found both second hand at a thrift store) but it was worth it to see him accept his brother. As for the clinginess he can feel your stress and worry so he is going to want to be near his main support system you. Once the baby is here he is going to be curious and want to touch and hold the baby. Let him as much as you can (with help of course) because it will help them bond and become friends. My oldest got so attached to his little brother that I eventually went to one crib rather than 2 because he would crawl out of his and climb into the babies to sleep anyway. Now they fight like their is no tomorrow but if one is hurt or upset they are the first one to try to take care of each other

Answer 7

My two youngest are only 13 months apart. When they were really small they acted more like twins (even though one is a girl and the other a boy). Don't worry so much about it. Once the baby gets here the older one will want to help and there just won't be the problems that you think there will be.

Answer 8

I was in the same situation as you are now... my first child, a son was 20 months when I had my second son. And he was very attached to me. I won't lie to you, it was rough at first. He was very jealous of the baby, would throw things at him while I was feeding him, etc. I tried buying him a doll to prepare him, but he had no interest. Unfortuneately, boys don't have that nurturing instinct/interest in babies that girls do.

Hard to really prepare them, but when you have the baby, try to keep your son involved in the baby's care - when you're bathing the baby, let your son watch, maybe squirty the shampoo, etc. Honestly at first the baby requires so little attention because it sleeps alot, so you really only need to be prepared when its feeding time, in my opinion - don't feel guilty to pop in a video or something like that to keep your son occupied while you feed the baby. And honestly they adjust very fast in some ways - but my sons are now 6 and 4 and still compete for my attention at times! :) You'll do fine, don't worry and good luck!

Answer 9

I have 3 VERY energetic sons. The first transitioned well when his brother was born, but then again he was 4 then. Now he likes to beat up his little bro! My 2nd had a bad time with the 3rd being born. He was almost 2, but he was clingy and he threw some awful tantrums when I was pregnant, but eventually he eased up. Good Luck and CONGRATS!

Answer 10

It's going to be rough for a little while. Your son now is obviously sensing that something is going to change soon. Just have patience, and maybe call a neighbor or a friend up once in a while to help you out by letting you take a nap, or taking your older son out to a park or go on a play date with another little friend.