I'm a 19 year old girl and and theres this guy and a few weeks ago i had a tingle around him but last saturday i didnt get a tingle around him ,I'm confussed do i not fine him attractive any more? i really dont understand the thingle thing that we are surpose to get when we see an attractive guy or a guy we like I never gets a tingle around any one at the bar any more but if i has a sexual thought of a women or if i watch a movie and has a sexual thought of a women on there then some times i get a tingle but why only then?
2007-03-20 10:05:48 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like your tingle is ready to come out of the closet ...
2007-03-20 10:10:08 · answer #1 · answered by zappafan 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please resist pressure from lesbians to make that tingle an indication that under it all, you're a raging homo. You have a 'tingle' around a guy and it comes and goes. Tell me, did you get to know this guy? Do you have anything in common with him? were you even closed to dating him? Or do you kind of watch the mass of bodies parade by you and wait for a 'tingle' to be an indication there's a possible relationship there?
It's a superficial way to think of dating and finding a good relationship. Again, this is where a lesbian would feel right at home and love to help you out.
Thing is, women are portrayed sexually with the offering of their bodies on display. That is called sexy. It is everywhere, in the media, selling beer, in print ads, on television. The sexiness of guys is related more to the way they treat women and how they act, with how they look coming in second.
So there's a reason you feel a tingle when you see a woman in a movie. It's been packgaged for you, delivered to you - if that woman wasn't groomed to be that way in that movie, it wouldn't sell tickets.
Aside from that very slick advertising, under it all is your future: do you see a future with a home, husband, children, in-laws, school programs, insurance policies, family vacations, etc.?
If you can consider your life seriously, you have to be a little bit less superficial in thinking about dating. Know how to have a converation? Know how to ask questions so you can learn about another person's goals and values? Have strong interests that you can share with another person? Want to know what another person's strong interests are (it tells you a lot about him). Care what kind of family he comes from? Care if he can handle life?
Surely you have female friends (non-sexual, friendship and love) - do you know any of those things about them? Has any of that information ever mattered to you? Dating and hanging around bars, try to look at guys the way you would evaluate anyone.
Looking at girls and wondering why you get a tingle is really questioning whether you want to just let some lesbian get in your pants.
2007-03-27 20:13:13 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You get a tingle when you first meet someone because you think it might lead to a relationship. But, after that when you see him again you begin to wonder if he is right for you. You go through the rational thoughts and when they are satisfied in a good way you begin to feel like some thing good will come of the relationship and start to get the tingle feeling again.
2007-03-20 10:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by Aliz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there!
Just so you know, having fantasies of other women does NOT mean you're a lesbian. It is actually quite normal, although most people won't talk about it.
Being sexual beings we can get a tingle about almost anything, if you allow yourself to go there. That said, I've learned you can't always judge things based on how you feel. Feelings are fickle. They come and go quickly. Get to know the person in every situation. See them when they are happy, sad, mad, frustrated, excited, joyous, especially around their family and friends.
You will know by spending time with them, if they are meant for you. I have been married for over 15 years and that tingle is not there anymore, BUT our love still is!
Best of luck to you! May you find what you're looking for!
2007-03-28 09:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by 6785bluerose 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little confused but I think I got it. You get a tingle when watching films of females? If so then that is weird, don't know about the whole tingle thing though. I did not think that is how one measured if you are attracted to someone or not.
2007-03-28 10:09:19 · answer #5 · answered by someadvice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon!
We don't always get a "tingle" every time we see someone we find attractive, so don't feel "abnormal'. Maybe the first time you saw the guy he was dressed real hot or smelled great. If you are concerned that you feel nothing around guys but something around girls then you could explore the idea that you are truly attracted to girls which is fine. What is important is that you come to a clear understanding of yourself, your emotions and your desires.
I truly hope this helps!
2007-03-20 10:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by tropical_babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, this does seem a delema doesn't it? Hey, don't worry yourself too much over this. This sounds like you are actually more sexually attracted to other women than you are to men. It is also possible that you can be attracted to both sexes. When you are attracted to the same sex, this is what "gay" is. When you are sexually attracted to both sexes, this is what, "bi-sexual" is.
There is nothing wrong with either of these two. Don't believe anyone who tells you that it is a "sin" to be attracted to the same sex, or too both sexes. God made us all the way we are, and if He didn't want you to be sexually attracted to women or both women and men you wouldn't be. As you are all adults there is absolutely nothing wrong with this and nothing for you to fight off inside yourself.
God made us all so different so we can learn to love each other despite our differences. If He made us all the same it would be very easy to love one another, now wouldn't it? So, to make this harder God simply made us all very different. Those who "hate" gays or wish to make the horrid mistake of trying to say this is a choice, do so becuase they are uncomfortable with the idea and it makes them feel better to believe it is something a person controls or makes a decison about. We don't make decisons on how we react sexually to others, that is how we are born.
I suggest you begin to look into your sexuality. It is OK for you to feel the way you do. Don't allow anyone to make you feel shame over an honest feeling of who you find sexually attractive. The only problem would be if you were attracted to children, then you would have to find a way to avoid contact with all children, in order to not harm them.
Good luck and have a great day!
2007-03-20 10:15:54 · answer #7 · answered by Serenity 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I got a tingle reading that.
2007-03-20 10:08:14 · answer #8 · answered by Nitz Frugent 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you shouldn't base your decision for liking someone on getting a tingle.
2007-03-20 10:10:21 · answer #9 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By tingle you mean you drink a lot of water and you needed to pee right? Just try to pee before you go to the bar.
2007-03-20 10:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋