im in the 8th grade. and my boyfriend and i have been together for about two weeks..the problem is that he ignores me. i know he likes me and he knows i like him..but all he will do is come sit next to me and sometimes talks to me about really random things..like rubberbands and stuff. i know he isn't shy because he used to kiss his ex all the time in school and was all over her..but he just isn't being a good bf. he never calls me and is just very distant and rarely hugs me. our relationship is very akward. i dont know what i should do. should i try to make him jealous? or should i just wait for him to do something...
2007-03-20 10:02:43 · 30 answers · asked by bella w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My sister had this problem three times. The relationship was going too slow.
Maybe you should give him time.
And if you want to think of it in a good way, maybe he REALLY likes you, and is not sure how to handle his newfound feelings. OR he's jsut taking it slow. All relationships are different. Give him time, and if it gets really frustrating, talk to him.
the main key in a relationship is talking and being honest.
2007-03-20 10:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by Juliette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually his kissing her in public was not being a good boyfriend. That wasn;t even being nice to her. Just be his friend. Don;t expect anything from him he is just 12 or 13 and really is learning what he is supposed to be like when he is a boyfriend. Don't make him jealous. I won;t even talk to him about it. Women including myself like to talk so much and guys usually never get it. I realize these things because I have sons. It's best to keep things simple and light. REmeber you are also learning about relationships too. Just practice talking to guys about silly things like rubberbands and trust me those heart to heart cobnversations you can't wait for will be there soon enough. Enjoy talking to all the friends in your class.
2007-03-20 10:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in 8th grade. You should focus in school because there will probably many more opportunities in the future for relationships. Lots of fish in the sea......so if he's already ignoring you in week 2 of the relationship when things are usually GREAT, then it's time to move on. Don't waste your time to make him jealous. Concentrate in school, and if there is another potential person...then focus your energy there.
2007-03-20 10:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by SlamDUNK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try asking him. He is either not interested anymore, OR he is respecting your relationship because he likes you so much. You need to ask. Because if you make him jealous and he was a good guy who was just trying to move slow (two weeks not a long time) then you just screwed that up. and if you wait for him to do something.... well that's just dumb. Just ask him if he's interested in you and why he does talk to you or call you. and why he was so affectionate with his other girlfriend.
you are only in 8th grade, give it some time..... How fast are you looking to move??
2007-03-20 10:08:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, don't make him jealous that's not reasonable. he's in 8th grade so he's obviously not mature yet. he's probably more into video games and playing outside then being in a commited relationship right now. and if he used to be all over his other girlfriend and not you and he doesn't call you maybe he just isn't ready or maybe he's not too sure if he wants this relationship but to me it sounds like you should move on
2007-03-20 10:07:46 · answer #5 · answered by Darby B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your in 8th grade you shouldn't be dating anyway. Look at this way- the point of dating is to find the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with. and for you that won't be an issue for like 4 or 5 more years so just forget about it until you're like 16 ok? i promise it's not impossible i'm 14 and i know i guy that really likes me and i really like him but we don't date because we both promised ourselves that we wouldn't until we were 16 so it might be hard to not get caught up in the whole dating thing but it isn't impossible
2007-03-20 10:15:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want the truth? He is not into you like he was into her. Now make your own decisions but don't play games or tell lies or tell your friends your secrets or spill your guts out over some guy you don't know very well. Got all that? Wish some nice lady had told me that in the 8th grade!!
2007-03-20 10:08:22 · answer #7 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was u i would ask him if he see u guys staying together a long time or if he see u guys breaking up and if he says seeing u guys breaking up soon ask him if he would rather see other people b/c he dont seem llike he is intersted in u anymore and see what he says if i was u i would tell him lets see other people b/c u dont seem intersted in me anymore thats what i would tell him and then break up with him and find someone that will call u and talk to u and be a good b/f to u
2007-03-20 10:13:26 · answer #8 · answered by Someoneslilgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is ignoring at this early point in the relationship, I would look for someone new. This is really normal for old stale relationships & you have to find ways to re-spark, but if you are in week 2???? Time to move on.
2007-03-20 10:06:26 · answer #9 · answered by stepss1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok one thing in a relationship that may do not know or get is that in a relationship u have to i mean have to talk to them...let him know what is wrong...dont let him think that there is nothing on ur mind...u need to tell him that u care about him and dont want to brake up with him but u hate feeling soooo distant from him....
2007-03-20 10:07:37 · answer #10 · answered by britta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋