I have been with her for 3 years and I love her but I'm not sure that I am still in love with her. We have more down's then up. We fight 2-3 times a week and still over stupid stuff half the time. And I feel like she want's it to end but is afraid to let go. What do I do... Someone help me...
2007-03-20 09:57:02 · 12 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It takes two to argue - if it is stupid stuff then don't get dragged into the argument - refrain from opening your mouth and flapping your lips back. It is your EGO that is making you argue back when it is a pointless, stupid argument. We have big egos.
Don't try to guess your love's feelings - it's unfair and usually wrong. Ask.
Loving someone is a choice, by the way. You don't fall in or out of love, you choose to love or not. Just like you choose to argue or not, or what clothes to wear, or whether or not you want to drive the speed limit, visit your parents, go out with a friend, play football, etc. Choice after choice after choice.
Good luck.
2007-03-20 10:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have the possibility of going away for a while? I did that with my ex, and it saved us actually breaking up. We still talk all the time, and I still love him, but I'm with someone else now. The fact that i had to leave put the barrier between us without me having to break up with him. Or you could say that the fighting is really upsetting you, and causing you stress. (You can always tell a little white lie and say it's making you ill with worry). Tell her that you think you need some time alone to get better. Yes, it's a cliche, but sometimes, it's all you can do. You HAVE to let your heart do the deciding, as it's you you've got to be thinking of here too. Yes, she may be hurt, but it would be worse if you stayed together unhappy. Breaking up with someone is sooo hard. I was very bad with another ex, as I could not get rid of him. In the end, I had to make up a fake email address, get chatting to him as someone else, encouraging him to flirt, and then pretending I had found the emails. How bad is that?? I find it impossible to dump someone, and the only way I could ease my guilt was making him seem like the bad guy. Anyways, think before you do anything long and hard...
2007-03-20 10:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by ~*Raine*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that way sometimes. You know relationships are alot of hard work...... If you do not think its worth it then just find a nice way to let her down, even though there really is no nice way.....you could say somethin like 'I need some time to myself' or 'we should seperate for a bit' or just be truthful and say that feeling has gone away and you cannot help it! Life goes on, she'll get over it eventually..... just let her know you cannot help the way you feel and there is prob someone better out there for the two of you so you're not stressin all the time with fighting....good luck, life aint easy!
2007-03-20 10:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you've been dating her awhile shouldn't be the decider. Tell her you need some time away to just see how you really feel about her because you're not really sure at the moment and you don't think it's fair to her to be dating somebody who isn't positive. Tell her you still want to be friends until you know for sure if you love her or not.
2007-03-20 10:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by Katalina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you dont want to break her heart by telling her that you want it to end. Just say I have loved you all of these 3 years but I feel like we are not as in love as we use to so i think that it is time we go our seperate ways.
2007-03-20 10:00:55 · answer #5 · answered by unfair mom trust me!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand. I feel this way in my relationship. I love him but he gets mad at me and angry so much at me. I may say things wrong but instead of him asking me, he immediately cusses and swears and gets pissed off at me. I, in turn, get the same way. I love him deeply, we fight probably every other week, and its always something stupid and not worth fighting over. You need to talk to her and find out how she feels about all the fighting and whether its still worth working on for both of you. communicate with her. You have to be on the same page
2007-03-20 10:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both have to sit and have a serious discussion of where your relationship is heading. the fighting can be worked on if you two are really going to try to work things out. if you are just over it you have to let her know that you have grown apart and are ready to move on. she should understand... of course she will be mad and hurt and there is no reason to lie and use the excuse of "just wanting to be friends"
2007-03-20 10:00:49 · answer #7 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her the proverbial line "It's not you.. it's me.. we need to cool off for awhile".. but ofcourse cooling off usually means youre cooling off then are breaking up. Then just look for someone who looks like Carmen Elektra and forget about your ex's lumpy butt. lol
2007-03-20 10:01:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell her what you told us. it's not fair to you or her to stay in this relationship if you have doubts. just sit down and talk to her.
2007-03-20 09:59:54 · answer #9 · answered by trisha_r_c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a slut to come over and get caught...
that should do the trick...
for added fun spray whipped cream on her nipples and...well y'know.
2007-03-20 10:01:56 · answer #10 · answered by Chris P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋