ALMOST broke-up.. now, NOT SO SECURE++++++?

Question

My boyfriend of over 13 months almost broke up with me. He said it was about how we raise our future kids and how we handle our future money. Our views were a lil different and he didn't want to go through a divorce someday... like he has seen in his parents and others. He doesn't have good examples to look up to like I do and he's been through a lot as a kid. So he was scared of that happening to US. I was shocked though because I thought we had already settled that before, but apparently not. We talked everything out and came to a compromise. Everything is fine now.

I told him next time, when we have an argument, we should compromise and come to a solution and when we say it's fixed... IT'S FIXED... and no more pretending it is. And then we can move on.

I seemed SO secure in our relationship. But is it weird that I don't feel as secure anymore? Now I feel like he's going to scare the hell outta me again. But we already talked this out. It's fine now, but I'm still... kinda off?

Oh, and he apologized. He even called me 3 times after the whole thing. He never called me that many times in a day before.

I actually called him today at a time I never do... just so I can hear in his voice if we are still alright.

Answer 1

Given his background, his concerns and reactions are very understandable. What you might think about is more an attitude of "we can handle problems" rather than to have all questions settled before going forward with the relationship. I'll let you in on a little secret (and you're welcome to pass it on to him). NO couple can have all questions settled ahead of time and "fixed" and set in stone. Life just doesn't let one do that. You're right in your insecurity. But remember that you (and you as a couple) can handle the problems.

Answer 2

YOU NEED HELP.TAKE A PILL.



P.S.TAKE A POOP