Hello.
I am very happily married with four sons. We have been together for almost 6 years. When our now 22 m/o son was born, my husband and I agreed for my hubby to get a vasectomy. Things went great. Now, I really want another baby. Last year, my best friend had a baby, and it made both my husband and myself want another. He jokes constantly about us having a 5th, and we made plans for a reversal. Lately, he has stopped joking, and wouldnt even talk about another baby. Last night, I asked him whats up, and he said WE WILL NOT HAVE ANOTHER BABY! It hurt pretty badly. He apologized for leading me on, and said that he has changed his mind. He says he envision us having more money, and being able to do more things as the kids get older. I am still very distrought. He wants to know if I will always feel dissapointment. At this point I must say yes. He is firm and anxious about how our marriage will hold. I love him so, and wont leave, but dont want heartache. What to do now????
2007-03-20 09:49:14 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I know it is just my emotions, but how can I make myself nt want another baby? I homeschool my kids, so I am home with them 24/7 basically, and I still long for one more. Maybe b/c my baby is going to turn 2 in May. Thanks all.
2007-03-20 10:08:12 · update #1
I really think you should just concentrate on him for a while. If you show him that he is a priority in your life and not just a sperm donor, he'll feel more inclined to listen to you late.r
2007-03-20 09:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Waiting and Wishing 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think that while your emotions are valid, you're not being fair. You already have 4 children and you both agreed not to have any more. He even went through a painful operation, based on what you two discussed and decided as a couple. Now you want him to have another operation, and another mouth to feed, because you oohed and ahhed over someone else's baby? I really think that you need to look at the children you have, be grateful for them and for your loving husband, and live the life that you have. If you need another little one to cuddle, get a puppy. But to hold this decision - that you BOTH made, by the way - against your husband is just selfish.
Good luck.
2007-03-20 17:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by Vix 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I would be happy with the 4 you have. Things could be worse!
2007-03-20 17:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by shorty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Foster, adopt or just love the ones you have.
2007-03-20 16:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by nokhada5 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋