me and my gf r 14 and shes having a baby by me ,and shes 5 months
2007-03-20 09:41:24 · 66 answers · asked by KING 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you mean abort the baby?hell no.you need to get out there and get a job and support that baby.dont be 1 of those dead beat dads,you hear about.ask her how it felt going in,and i bet it wont feel the same coming out.if she decides to keep the baby,she might file against you for child support.boy,i dont know what these young kids are thinking these days.they are not thinking with the right head.
2007-03-20 09:45:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Well my dear first I am sorry you are in this predicament. And I'm even sorrier to imagine you facing it alone with your girlfriend. :(
My first and single advice on this is to seek help from an older person. It doesn't have to be your parents or even family. You must have older friends, perhaps brothers or sisters of friends of yours who could provide some real life support to both of you.
Then your girlfriend is 5 months pregnant, the abortion is bound to be more dangerous for her than if it had been done earlier. I know this is of little comfort but I think you should be aware of the risks.
Now you can't possibly imagine raising the child, this is not something you can envision at 18 let alone at 14 my dear. Other solutions are also available such as adoption; your ‘problem’ would turn into a beautiful gift for some childless couple who would treasure your child.
Also this is not your entire responsibility, you were two in the making so this decision must involve the two of you. Listen to your girlfriend and what she thinks and express your own opinion.
But anyway and no matter what please do seek the support of some older friend soon. Someone who will be there for you both. Ideally it would be your parents but I understand this may not be something possible right now. However reach out between today and tomorrow to some 'grown up', it's no use waiting any longer and making this problem even worse.
Take care and I wish you all the best.
Andie
2007-03-20 11:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you cant delet a human being! Second of all she's to far along to have an abortion.
In a case like this adoption sounds like it would be the best for the two of you. You and she are both very young! You should talk to her about adoption. If she wants to be able to still know her child there is ALWAYS open adoptions. If you do decide on adoption Lds services are the best out there. They will help find the best of couples to adopt the baby. They have open adoption services as well as closed adoptions. Open adoption means she and possibly you will be able to get pictures and see the child. Just go to this link and look into it. Also let her look at it or give her the number they have and let her call.
2007-03-20 09:54:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first, you do NOT DELETE A BABY! Second, if she is 5 months along, she is having the baby because you cannot have an abortion after the first trimester. You can suggest she give it up for adoption, but since she's having the baby, it is primarily her decsion. Finally, get some condoms or keep your thing in your pants b/c getting a 14 year old pregnant is very irresponsible.
2007-03-20 09:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is delet? Does that mean delete? As in abortion? If you were so worried about having a child at 14 why didn't you keep your itty bitty in your pants? Or at least use protection? And you can not MAKE her do anything, you can be a dead beat dad and have nothing to do with the baby or help take care of it. But obvioulsy at 5 months pregnant she has chose to give her child life, which is a wonderful thing, that she can be so unselfish unline yourself. Next time think about a comdom or not having sex at all! Hopefully she has good parents who are going to be there for her since you seem to be useless!
2007-03-20 09:46:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why were you having sex at 14 anyway? If you don't know the consequences of sex don't do it! Also, she can't have an abortion at 5 months along. Its not up to you what she does with the baby. you cannot make her do anything that she doesnt want. If she wanted an abortion she wouldve done it long ago. Grow up and keep it in your pants from now on. You will have to a responsible parent now.
2007-03-20 09:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by L♥G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant delete a baby ......Abortion is basically out of the question since she is already 5 month along. Options available to you are Adoption and keeping.
Please talk to your family and if that is out of the question the call your local public health unit or the Kids help line both will be able to direct you to places that can help
I wish you both the best gl with everything
2007-03-20 09:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by allidsaregone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Delet the baby? What the heck does that mean? Abortion? It is too late for that is she is five months. Be a man and live up to the responsibility of your actions. Be there for her and the baby. Do you think that she is any more prepared for this than you are? Do what is right and be supportive.
2007-03-20 09:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Maid of Constant Sorrow 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I think it may be too late to have an abortion. I'm not exactly sure on the time limit, but she may be too far along. It was a very bad choice. This could very well ruin both of your lives. You can always put it up for adoption. I say you go to your nearest women's center and ask them about your options. You need to be ready for a baby, they're a lot of responsibility and money. Good luck
2007-03-20 09:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by Tanya 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are actually the king of nothing. You have posted two disgusting stories on here. I can only pray that they are both made up in your own mind.
You need to grow up and stop thinking that you are a player, because no young woman would put up with being treated like a slave and called names.
You are a sad example of some of the younger people of this world.
2007-03-20 10:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋