I can't wait, but I also can't focus on anything--I've gone completely A.D.D.! You should see the post-its I have everywhere, I have gobs of them, its the only way to remember anything. This is completely unlike me tho, I have always had a great attention span & remember what all I need to do, now things just flit around in my head & 1/2 the time escape before I can write them down. I'm not necessarily panicked about all this, but it is wierding me out a little, I want to hang onto a thought! I'm scared I have had to many important things flit right out of my head...how do I get my focus back? Suck it up til after the wedding!? It seems like the only way right now, & am I the only one like this?
2007-03-20 09:41:16 · 15 answers · asked by ASH 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Exactly how I was. Main thing you need to do, is on the day, make sure to enjoy it. It flies by and you kinda feel like wow, it's over already? All this planning and stressing, and it's very wonderful and all, but very quick. You'll always have the memories and pics which is great. You may feel like afterwards, it was a blur.
One thing I regret is not getting the videographer. I wish now I had a video to watch every year w/my hubbie. So if there's anything like that you tried to save $$$ on, make sure you'll always feel you made the right choice.
Another thing is on your wedding day, you'll be getting pulled in evey direction and you may go to dance with your new husband, but you're being told to do something else. That's partly why it can be a blur. So make sure if you love dancing, to take the time to do it. Or if you love talking, take the time to do it.
I kept having worries in my head about talking to people too much. I felt like if there's 150 people there, and I talk to each for only 5 minutes, that will take up 750 minutes and the recption is 5 hours(300 minutes). Which is insane to think about b/c you have to at LEAST say hello to everyone!!! But it worked out ok, you get congratulations and kisses and all that after the ceremony usually.
So I was worried about not having enough time to do what I want. Just make sure to cherish it and enjoy it to the fullest. You'll probably feel overwhelmed until Saturday no matter what you do! Unless you want to take a valium, try just thriving on the busy-ness of it all. It's a good stress! Good luck and my best wishes are with you and your groom to be :)
2007-03-20 09:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by nymom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohmygoodness. Deep breath now.
You, like me, seem to be something of a control freak (not necessarily a bad thing - nothing would ever get done if it weren't for us).
Weddings (especially big ones) are extremely stressful, and so many of us get into this thinking that everything about our wedding day has to be perfect - the flowers, food, cake, bridal party, music, photographer, cake....whew.
Now I'm starting to hyperventilate.
Have a nice cup of tea, practice some mindful breathing and try to convince yourself that you have done everything to the best of your ability; what happens after you've dotted the i's and crossed the t's is out of your hands. Enjoy the day as it whizzes around you (you'll have the pictures, which is good, because it'll probably such a whirlwind that you won't remember anything). Let your mom or his mom or an aunt or a best friend take over the micromanaging from here. Get a pedicure or a massage or go to a movie by yourself.
You'll be fine, and it will all be over before you know it.
2007-03-20 16:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by sylvyahr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to delegate as much as you can at this point. You shouldn't have to do too much else here, if you do, you've not been delegating well. By tomorrow or Thursday at the absolute latest, all you should worry about is when you manicure/pedicure/waxing appointment is, and what time your hair/makeup person will arrive. It sounds to me like you're trying to do it all yourself, and you will eventually go nuts with this. By removing all but the most essential things from YOUR to-do lists, you will get your focus back. So make some phone calls, and enlist that help now! Congratulations and good luck on Saturday!!! I'm sure you'll have a wonderful wedding.
2007-03-20 16:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 6 months to go and I'm already frazzled so I can not imagine how it must be with only 4 days to go! OMG, that's crazy. Just try to relax, it will all be over soon - just don't be too frazzled that you MISS your day and it goes by in a blur. I've heard of that happening to brides. Try to relax, when are you getting your spa treatment? Perhaps you can do at least a massage now to relax you. Take 1/2 a Valium or drink a glass of wine. Congrats and good luck on Saturday!!!
2007-03-20 16:48:20 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yey,
Congrats. Good luck.
All your planning will be worth it. You are NOT the only one - it is perfectly normal. The reason your so a flutter is that this is the most exciting thing yet, no wonder you can't keep your mind on things.
Get some help from mum and MoH etc so you don't burn yourself out before the big day.
Make sure you relax on the day and let other people take care of things like they are meant too.
ENJOY!
2007-03-20 16:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not the only one like this.... 95% of brides are like this. Just dont worry about anything. Do what you are doing but dont stress or else you wont even get to enjoy your own wedding. Improvise is the key word here, OK.
Congratulations on your wedding.
2007-03-20 16:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a breath and try to relax it's normal for you to feel overwhelmed. Good Luck on Saturday and have a great wedding day!
2007-03-20 16:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by shorty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you're feeling, I've been there too. but remember it's your day and you need all the rest and relaxation at mercy. try delegating, or working on the more important tasks. and on wedding day just have fun and focus on being the "main attraction."
anyway, congratulations, god bless, and have fun
2007-03-20 18:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by alizelatina41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CONGRATS!!!!!
Now, take a deep breathe, count to ten. Go get a pedicure and paraffin wax. Take just some moments in the time to just veg out.
All is well and it will be a beautiful ceremony, after all it is you who is the bride.
Smile.
2007-03-20 16:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by Nana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to this website. She may have a list of final day things to do on it. Or at least you can try to contact her for assistance.
http://www.geocities.com/patgd25
2007-03-20 16:51:12 · answer #10 · answered by St N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋