This guy and I have been talking for about a month or so and we've gone out several times and we talk daily. The point is that I don't want a relationship right now but he does. I've already told him no before and that i just see him as a friend. So he agree we would just be talking. Now the problem is that things have been heating up between us. I've gone over to his house and we've messed around (make out, etc..) but we've never gone all the way through but even though i don't want any commitment with him and he's just my friend, I'm starting to feel used. For instance, after we're finished he changes into a complete different person and he's also told me that we should keep what we've been doing a secret since we're just friends, but he's also told me that whenever we go around (if it happens) we're not gonna be messing around that often. What should I do? Am I being used? :(
2007-03-20 09:33:03 · 6 answers · asked by ♥ mars♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're not up for a relationship but he is, perhaps he is being used.
However, the point you make about him changing into a different person is somewhat disturbing. It makes me wonder what sort of person he really is and makes me suspect he's not being really up front with you about him wanting a relationship in the first place.
Perhaps you are being lied to.
I would confront him about it.
Others would just get out on that basis alone.
2007-03-20 09:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want a relationship with this person, stop going over to his house making out. Are you being used? I would say yes and especially is he's keeping you a secret. He may have a girlfriend or trying to get with someone else and you are a safety until that person comes along.
2007-03-20 16:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you FEEL used, yes you are being used but it's not clear from your explanation that you are. The basic definition is that one person gets (the user) and the other gives (the used) but your situation hardly fits does it. If, on the other hand, he becomes unfriendly and secretive, that's really not what friends do. You may not be used but it hardly sounds as though you have a mutual, give and take, friendship going.
2007-03-20 16:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If YOU wanted a relationship and he didn't, then I'd say yes. What he's doing isn't using you. He's trying to persuade you into a relationship.
2007-03-20 16:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by xskeptictankx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just cut off contact in my opinion yes he is using you, that or hes scared of commitment
2007-03-20 16:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by TheJesterTwist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, seems like he already has a girl. Be glad that you havent had sex with him, and make sure you keep it that way. Good luck!
2007-03-20 16:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by Its only me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋