How should I break my daughter from the pacifer?

Question

Shes almost 2 and a half and still has one all the time. She wont give it up. Im about to have another baby in a couple days. how can I get her to leave it alone?

Answer 1

When I was a toddler, my mom took a safety pin and attached my pacifier to my pillow case. She told me that I was a big girl, and I didn't need it all the time, but I could suck on it when I was going to sleep. If I wanted my pacifier during the day, I was allowed to go lie down and suck on it for a little bit.

An active 2 year old does NOT want to stay in her room with a pacifier - she wants to be doing things! So I got over it pretty quick.

Answer 2

I know you want to get the pacifier away from her, but you should have your baby first. This new baby will really make your daughter insecure for a while. Let her have her comfort for a while longer and when the new baby is integrated in the family just tell your daughter that she can't have a 3rd birthday party or a special new toy if she has a pacifier. When she says "ok" then have her through it in the trash and take it to the curb and tell her that the pacifier is gone for good. She will have a problem for a couple of days and then she will get over it. Just be ready to have a few days of tantrums and crying for when she wants it. Tell her that you are sorry it's gone (be sympathetic), but that you can't get it back now. Hope this helps...

Answer 3

Hm.. Ive never been in your situation so forgive me if I don't have the best advice.
I think you could give her an incentive? Like, tell her if she goes the whole day without the pacifier you'll read her her favorite book, or play a game she likes.
Maybe just hiding it? Nah... thats kind of mean. Hmm.. what would I do? I dont think youd want to give her something to replace it.. so... when your new baby comes, give him or her a pacifier, and tell your daughter theyre made more for little babies and she's getting to be a big girl.
I think she'd understand if she saw the baby with it.
Good luck.

Answer 4

Few things after reading what others have said.
1. Do you know how LONG it takes to wear out a dummy (pacifier)!!!!
2. Most kids won't calm down for weeks if you suddenly take it away especially if they have it during the day.

It looks awful to seetoddlers running around the park with huge lumps of plastic in their mouths not to mention what i does to their speech and language development.
I did this: firstly tell your daughter she's a big girl and big girls don't have dummies (we both know how much 2 year old like to think their big girls) then stiop her having it during the day, only for night time comfort. Then explain that the dummies have to go to the dummy fairy who delivers them to the babies who need them (again explaining what a big girl she is so doesn't need one). 2 year olds are clever enough not to believe "it got lost" etc. So I did this. Put the dummies ina littlebag go out into the garden and tie them to a tree (seriously I did this). Explain that the fairies will come and collect them during the night. (obviously move and bin said dummies before the morning). Hey presto kid happy dummies gone. She'll probably still ask for the thing just say again how the faries took it and gave them to the babies who needed them. Worked for me...!

Answer 5

There is not an easy way, just stick to your guns so to speak. My daughter was the same way and we caved 2 or 3 times, which was unfare to her. It is hell for a week or so then they get over it, I dont think any explanations work (for taking away the pacifier), you are taking away something they want, try to be understanding but stand your ground.

Answer 6

got rid of my daughter's at 18 months. I told her (she was potty training and her "reward" for going potty was to flush the potty) it got flushed down the toilet. She looked, had 3 nights of crying and that was it. Magic number was the 4th night. Just be prepared that if new baby has a pacifier that your 2 year old may revert back! Mine didn't, but my second never took a pacifier.

Answer 7

Cold turkey! While my husband was at the park with the kids, I gathered up the binkies and threw them out. When he wanted one I said we didn't have any, and NO I'm not buying one. Then I'd ask "Wanna play candyland?" I would have something else for him to do when he asked for it. I had new colored pencils, clay, an Elmo DVD, a bag of tricks to distract him. The first night was hard, but he got over it really fast. The following weekend I was stripping his bed and found a binkie! I thought I was going to have a heart attack, so search her bed thoroughly my dear.

Answer 8

If binkies in your house were like ours, they got lost all the time. I told my daughter when we lost the last one that was it. On the night it happened she cried for about 7 minutes then fell asleep. Next night she cried less. By the third night she was used to not having it. She tends to like a blanket or stuffed animal now instead.

Answer 9

My son used his "bo-bo" until just before his second birthday.

My husband and I finally had to sit down and explain to him that his "bo-bo's" were for babies and that he was now a big boy.

We took my son, and all the pacifiers, walked over to the garbage and threw them away with him. Of course, he threw a fit for about 45 minutes, and still asked for his "bo-bo" especially at nighttime.

After about a week he stopped asking for it, and eventually forgot all about it.

Good luck!

Answer 10

I would give her a cookie instead and throw all the pacifiers away. and tell her all gone that she is a big girl, she might cry for a while, just keep her interested in other things and she will eventually forget about the pacifier. good luck.