I'm still missing my ex. We split up six years ago?

Question

...entirely my fault, I dumped him for someone who soooo was not worth it. We started talking couple of years ago and I'm beginning to realise that I made the biggest mistake in my life. I think he's single but at the moment we live hundreds of miles apart. We both have got reasonably good jobs which is why it would be quite difficult to move somewhere else. Should I try and get him back or just try to forget... ?

Answer 1

Hi
Six years is a long time in anyones life so theres only one way to find out... ask him. He'll be flattered and noble if hes the one for you. Obviously how you ask is up to you, but if its 'back on', distance is no obstacle and if its not back on, the distance will not hinder either of you moving on with your life. BTW people do this all the time - you just never hear about it! Good luck!

Answer 2

You will never forget...too many memories. The problem is that it is human nature to remember all the good and block out most of the bad. Think of all the reasons you guys broke up. Things may go good again, but for how long. I have tried to mend old relationships just to realize why I left the relationship in the first place. If he is your soulmate, then get him. I think that if he was though, things wouldn't be like they are now. Best advice, break up with this new guy and stop looking for a man. Do the things that make you happy, keep busy with hobbies and other stuff. The perfect guy will come for you. Destiny is a strange thing. Keep giving off positive karma and you will be rewarded. Good luck! Moments of weakness are a *****! I still think sometimes that I could marry my ex-ex-gf, but you have to love yourself before you can love someone else!

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Make sure that you really miss him & that your not projecting the traits of your ideal mate onto him. I've learned from past experiences that I can easily make someone out to be someone they're not.
Also, Think about the person you dumped him for. Did he turn out to be less impressive than you thought in the beginning? You might have to really look at this issue of
"romanticising".
When you let go of the idea of being with him, you will make room in your life for someone new. Nothing new can come into your life without letting go of something old.

Answer 5

Hi there

If you really love him then you must try to get him back. The hardest part is trying to pursue a lost cause so try to make sure he still has feelings for you. A lot of us have been here and it doesn't get any easier. Its been seven years for me and like you it was my fault. It is possible to find happiness with another person but there are different kinds of love. What you had with your ex will never be the same with another person. Were all different!

Good luck

Regards

idai

Answer 6

tough one...

I don't know if i'm any good for advisor in this case, cause i have the same kindda problem...

difference is that i dumped my ex-bf 1,5 years ago, rest of it....same s***

i guess first you have to ask yourself if what you fell for him now is real or it's just your heart's need of "magic"..only the desire to create a beautifull love story in your life...
I've spent a lot of time trying to figure that out, and when i finally got the answer I realised that i'ts worth to give it one more try... he had the same opinion too, so now we're back toghether... 3 weeks now... feels GREAT

good luck o figuring out what you really want...
best wishes

Answer 7

I say move on...not to mention if I were him, I couldnt trust you to not dump me the next time you think you found something better. You need to move on with your life and hopefuly you learned a valuable lesson when you dumped what could of been the one for a loser.

Answer 8

Not to sound all mushy, but you should always fight for love. Since you are the one who messed things up in the first place. You should quit your job and move to be with him. Thats assuming he will take you back. Good luck!

Answer 9

you don't even know if he is single..find out what he is been upto and if he is seeing someone..find out if he feels the same way and if he would love to be with you again..then maybe talk it over with him, if he is single and let him know how you feel..go in expecting anything, a no or yes..if yes good for you!! if no..everything happens for a reason..and just know that it was no meant to be..you know that saying.." if you love something set it free if it comes back to you it was meant to be if it doesn't it ws not meant to be?".. so true..

Answer 10

GET HIM BACK!!!!! if you love him you will give anything to get him back and a long distence relationship may be hard but i'm in 1 right now. sure its difficult but it is worth it and we love each other so just go for it

P.S. but u don't have to listen to me i'm only 14 :D so yeah :D