This is weird.... I really like this guy, and he likes me. However, we are both fresh out of a long, bad relationship with our spouses and we have both said to each other that we need some time to heal before we get together.
We both feel we will have a long-term relationship when we do end up together, and we are best of friends right now as we help each other move out of our marriages and start our new 'single' lives.
We have never had sex, but have held hands and hug regulalry.
I'm guessing that it would be about another year before we would start a 'real' relationship.
Now here's my question..... If I had 'casual sex' with another guy between now (when my friend and I told each other we like each other) and the time he and I really start being romantic, is that Cheating????? I feel guilty having sex with anyone but my friend, but we both agreed that we want to grow our friendship before we take that next step.
2007-03-20 09:08:18 · 6 answers · asked by Raj B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As it stands right now, if you were to have casual sex, you're not cheating. You're not in a committed relationship, so you dont have to worry bout that. What you should worry about is your conscience. If you really like this guy and KNOW you 2 will be together, forever one day....yet while you really like him- youre sleeping with someone else.......that may get the best of ya. Do you think you can handle that?!?! Some people can, some cant. Just be careful on that aspect.
But no, youre not cheating.
2007-03-20 09:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im pretty sure that you want to hear that it isnt but im "talking" to a guy and like if he went out and did anything with any other girl right now i would be so mad and i wouldnt know what to do with him but i would prolly have to not end up having a relationship with him because i couldnt trust him if we werent gong out and he did that but if you asked him and he said that he didnt care if you had sex with someone else right now then go for it but either dont do it or talk about it with the guy!! good luck
2007-03-20 16:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by tropical_sweety2587 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is doing something you would not want your SO to find out about. Pretty simple really. If you want to really do this right, tell him straight up that between now and then you might have some casual one might stands with meaningless strangers before you get settled enough to be with him. I'm sure he'll take it okay.
2007-03-20 16:12:31 · answer #3 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i think so...If your making a commitment to try and make a romantic relationship with him, then why go and try to find someone else...I mean if you were to find out he had casually had sex with someone else, wouldnt that bother you, since he said he was going to commit and try to work on the relationship....You need to think about what you really want...If you say you already told eachother that you have feelings, then why screw it up?
2007-03-20 16:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by ~small town girl~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically i define cheating as anything you know would make your boyfriend feel uncomfortable, If you feel that you have to keep it from them...it's cheating...how would you feel if the roles were reversed and he was having casual sex with someone else?
2007-03-20 16:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by 1.2..3...Boo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no thats so not cheating! you guys wern;t together so no
2007-03-20 16:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by ChocoLatte092 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋