Still not convinced...?

Question

Sorry, I posted this earlier...but I dunno..I'm still unsure...


So theres this guy I play hockey with, who I'm a little interested in. But, I don't know if he likes me. I was getting the vibe he doesn't cuz anytime I talk to him he's really quiet and wont start talking with me (unless to apologize for hitting me with the puck). But I once spent like 15 minutes talking with him, and he thought it was awsome I broke up with my now ex, and suggested blow torching his pictures.

But I was talking with someone on the team and they were telling me that he's really into me and has the 'hots' for me. He was saying how in the dressing room and everywhere else he's really talkative and really cocky then once I come around he's really quiet and shy.

I do try and talk to him, and I do smile.

You think there's the possibility he may actually like me? If he does why wont he talk to me or make a move?

If so, why does it feel like he dislikes me?

Like normally you catch a guy constantly looking at you, I've onyl caught im like 3 times (granted, I play goal so I watch the puck). But like he'll barely make eye contact with me sometimes...i don't get it?!

...How do I get unshy with respect to asking a guy out?

Answer 1

There is a DEFINITE possibility he likes you.
Hot girl hockey player! Whats not to like?
Only problem is sometimes when a girl is on a "man's" sports team we can start to see you as "one of the guys" but your physical beauty should easily overcome that. Maybe he won't make a move because you are on the same team. Inter-team relations are notoriously tricky, even more so than interoffice relations. Mess up and the outcome can be disastrous.

Answer 2

Did it ever occur to you that some things are meant for you to just not understand? If he didn't like you, he wouldn't be wasting his time talking to you. He would be focusing on the game. He talks to you and others have told you that he's interested. Isn't that a sign to you? It obviously is if he talks to you? Don't try to talk to him, succeed! Find out where he hangs, what his interest are. They are icebreakers and will allow the communication level to hit higher. Shyness in a guy or girl is usually the first sign that he/she likes someone especially if they are talkitive and cocky with others but the person they like. Maybe he hasn't made a move, because he wants you to do it. Some guys think that's hot. Just keep talking to him more and just see what happens. Don't push the issue because that will have no result for a positive relationship. Good luck!

Answer 3

It appears that this guy is either shy or when he is around you he feels like your above him. Meaning that he is afraid that you will say no if he asks you out. Even worse that you would laugh at him. Some guys are afraid that a good looking girl will reject them, so the talk big around the fellas and are quiet around the girls. Why not ask him to grab a soda after a game and see how things go from there.

Answer 4

Hi
Chances are he has the 'hots' for you but he wont show it in public (at first)- guys are shy and dont show their feelings that easily. Continue to be authentic, smile and dont worry about it. Relax. A confident woman is very attractive. perhaps hes in front of other people and feels shy? Perhaps hes not readily armed with really bad one liners (a great sign). Be patient and good luck!

Answer 5

I agree with Lovely, he's probably shy around you which makes sense if he "has the hots" for you. Ask him out - or invite him and some other people out for a meal or snacks after hockey and make sure you get a seat next to him ;O)

Answer 6

He can be an extrovert around other guys and an introvert around women. So it is highly likely he does in deed find you really attractive but can't get the nerve to approach you. You are a pretty women so make the first more.

Answer 7

Going by your photo you are very pretty, maybe he thinks he doesn't stand a chance with you....and this is why there is very little eye contact, but like someone else said - when you're not looking at him, I bet he's checking you out......!
Ask him if he would like to get a cold drink after one of your games and take it from there.

Answer 8

It sounds like he may just be shy. Hmm. If I were you, I'd take the chance and just ask if he wants to hangout. Like let's say there's somewhere you like to go, ask if he wants to go with cos your friend can't (whether or not it's true :P But make it mre casual, like going to a book/music store or something. That way, it won't be uncomfortable like going to the movies or sitting down 1-on-1 for coffee...

Eventually, he probably will just have to say something! Try asking him to go somewhere with you, like I suggested above, then see how he acts.

Answer 9

He is a shy little boy and you are way too mature to be dealing with him. You are a hot girl and you play hockey, God you sound perfect! Try dating older guys.

Answer 10

Dear one perhaps obsessing of this young man instead you can turn your heart to God. Perhaps God is the answer to the desire's of your heart. I will be praying for you.
The prayer of St. Francis says it best............


Lord, make me an instrument of your peace,
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
where there is sadness, joy;
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

“Forgiveness is the fragrance a violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it”