Would you forgive your bf or gf if you love them for just about anything. Say you got another phone line and didn't want to give them the number but they found out what the number was anyway and when you caught them they were at least honest about it. Would you forgive them for this or is this grounds for a break up?
Or what would you consider to be unforgiveable, it's not a heart was broken or u cheated and some people move on past that. So is what i did so bad that he should break up with me. I was just curious as to what the number was. I called it to make sure it was the right number, I called private but he assumed it was me and when he asked I was honest. Shouldn't that account for something?
2007-03-20 08:52:18 · 14 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess what would hurt to me in your case, is the fact that he didn't tell me about it.
I respect their space and what they want me to know or not, but I wont stand when they try to hide stuff from me.
I for example would be ok if my bf tells me he wants to go to strip club with friends and have fun WATCHING. But wouldn't be ok if he doesn't tell me and I found out.
So, ask yourself this: Are you willing to give that kind of space to a guy and be ok with it? If so, forgive him this one and tell him to be honest in the future
Good Luck
2007-03-20 08:59:44 · answer #1 · answered by lysa24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know the case that well to decide whether or not if he should. I mean yes it does sound like a really stupid thing to break up over but at the same time maybe he's thinking that the only reason you havent given him the number was because you were cheating on him or something. I know that you said that you didnt but maybe he doesnt know that. Its the same with us too you know just like a guy. They say that they didnt cheat and maybe they havent but at the same time how many girls dont believe them and break up with them? A LOT! Trust me. Just talk to him about it and be honest with him. I'm sure that it will all work out for the best. Good Luck!
2007-03-20 15:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a ?way would he not want to give you the number...are you with him?so you say that he got a phone and did not give you the number but you got it anyway and you called him..well if you are not with him and you got the number and you called him then all i have to say is that he does not want to be with you i know that it is hard because you love him,but it harder to let go and that what he want you to do that way he didn't give you the number don't feel bad all woman do it but you have to move on and in time you would find someone that need to love you the way you need.and if you are together way not give you the number that not grounds for a break up he will get over it and if he break up with you because of it them you dont need him....and dont feel bad we are woman and we are curious and you were honest so dont keep thinkn that what you did was bad you didnt even have to tell him that it was you so your ok,to me how i read this you care about him but do you think that he care about you i dont know the phone thing is funny way not give you the number that what i cant get if he is with you...
2007-03-20 16:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by mami 04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf (5 years) kissed a girl last year, I found out because she called me. She told me they were sleeping together and he was dating her and she knew all about me but didn't care. After long talks and some time apart, I forgave him, but I will never forget it. He says he didn't sleep with her, I do believe him.
I still haven't built up all my trust for him yet, but I am trying and he's trying too. I don't shove this in his face, or even bring it up anymore. No need. Whats been said and done is just that. We do love eachother and I have like I said forgave him.
Even if he had slept with her, I still would have forgave him, but only once if it ever happened again, no it would be over.
Keep in mind I am 32 and he was 30 when this took place he's 31 now.
2007-03-20 15:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by 2shay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what grounds he got the second line for?
Business, personal, cheating, etc.......
I am divorced now but she was the one pushing for it!! She wants me to buy a home and fix a room for her so when she gets pregnant I can take her back in!!!!................like I am that dumb!!
I have gone through sooo much and I am sooo damn open minded that she wanted to make feel bad about the divorce but she is the one who wanted it.............now she can kiss my assssssssssssssssssssssssss!
She try to cheat on me while still married.................we found out that due to bad genes I can not have kids and she began to talk to this guy in another city but forgot I was the one paying for the phone bill and I don't just pay my bills I always check them since I have noticed some weird stuff before and check for that..................I found that # and had a few friend check it and found an address then found more info on him.
He is married and have three kids and is supposed to be in that city due to work but travels every weekend to see his family in MN. I went to his home and showed him my piece.....said that if she wanted to be with him and visaversa she would have to divorce me first or I would come back for a long visit and his last time to live!!
I confronted her and told her that if she wanted to sleep with other guys she should tell me so I could do the same with other women............but she is sooo nutty she wants me to stay single while she gets herself pregnant.................she also does not have a full time job and does not make enough to support herself...................she is sooo crazy I am glad we were not married for more than four years now I am FREE!!!!!
At that time I did forgive her.............she presented faced me with the divorce five months later........on the my Moms first year of anniversary since her death!!! I don't see how I can forget nor forgive her again but for now I am being nice and trying to help her get a nice job so I can completely get her out of my life!!
2007-03-20 16:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesnt make sense. Are you saying your bf got a 2nd phone number and didn't give it to you? Then he got mad when you found out his number and called it?? Why on earth wouldn't he give you his numbers? What does he have to hide? I think he's in the wrong here. Something is fishy.
2007-03-20 16:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by Caramella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving is loving and it must be applied daily. If you go to bed otherwise the unforgivness like a wall between you is built and one day it will fall and hurt someone.
2007-03-20 15:58:41 · answer #7 · answered by *DestinyPrince* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It technically "shouldn't" be grounds for a breakup...buuuut, if you're boyfriend is (was) like me, he may have been looking for any reason to cut it off.
I'm ready to give my "two weeks notice" at the next slightest incident, hehe.
2007-03-20 16:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt sweat the small stuff or pet the sweaty stuff, a relationship is built on trust and honesty
2007-03-20 15:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, you should be the mad one. Why was he trying to keep his number from you? No, he shouldn't feel the need to dump you over that.
2007-03-20 15:58:41 · answer #10 · answered by ....... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋