see it.They get mad at me becuase my BF is good to me & they also talk about me when i have a certain job etc.They call there friends & each other to talk about what my BF buys me & where we go & what i have. i don't throw things in anyones face i hide so many things from them but i feel that i should be able to talk them about certain things. me & my BF have had arguments over this because i ask him to hide things and i get very upset about this & he says let them do it . i went through stupid things like this with friends my family knew how hurt i was about that. i love my family i will give them anything they want but it hurts me so much that they talk so much crap about me & when my BF does good things for me. i can't be blamed for the choices of men they keep choosing i tell them about these guys but they get mad and want to attack me & so i let them see for themselves & of course i was right these guys( convicts,addicts) ect were bad from day 1 so why blame me
2007-03-20 08:49:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They are jealous of you for a reason. You have something they want. There is nothing you can do to change that. they must change their way of thinking & their choices. It is not your place nor your duty to try to make them happy. Family or not!!! I have been there done this myself. I finally learned that I was not going to compromise my happiness because I felt "bad" about having someone good in my life when certain family members & friends did not. They have the option to change or stay the way they are. Don't let them drag you down with them!!!! You have a good man it sounds like. How long do you think he will put up with this?? He is number one in your life now. Besides yourself. Not them.
It's not easy I know to do what I am saying but trust me it will be for the best for you. if you don't you will be a slave to their "feeling" for the rest of your life.
2007-03-20 09:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by suckingchestwound 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though there is a lot of jealousy going on here and for no reason.
I agree with your boyfriend......you shouldn't be hiding anything and he doesn't have to either.
Try having a really serious talk with your mom and sister and let them know how much they are hurting you. Family is supposed to stick together through thick and thin and not go against each other.
Maybe some family counselling would help all of you. You need to get this straightened out before it goes any further.Good Luck to you.
2007-03-20 16:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what way you look at this hun, this is actual abuse. Im not messing with you. Its actual abuse. I highly recommend
you completely block youre personal relationship details from these people. Tell them nothing from now on. If they ask any questions to do with you...tell them nothing. You are being walked over sweetie. Dont let them walk over you again.
2007-03-20 15:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by tomy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not every family is healthy,but yours sounds like a real mess.
I had a cousin who was verbally abused by her parents and
sisters for years until she finally cut them all out of her life.
It was a bit extreme,maybe,but then maybe not. You might
want to think about distancing yourself from your toxic relatives.
2007-03-20 16:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by Alion 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would try to advoid it. dont let them see how upset it gets you. or you could always play their game--call someone on the phone and start to talk about them-say something like "wow, can you beleive that my sister just called her friend to talk about me and what a wonderful bf i have" "to bad she doesnt"
you have to beat them at their own game!
good luck and dont hide your stuff, be proud of what you get from him
2007-03-20 15:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by buzyb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the day they have a b/f like yours is the day you'll listen to what they have to say. It's not your fault neither one of them has more sense than the other.
2007-03-20 16:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's just not right. They should want you to be with someone who treats you well. I would have to have a long time with these two.
2007-03-20 15:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by lucy02 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They r just hatin...so let em!! I know how u must feel tho...ur mom...WOW!! That's crazy to me, lol
2007-03-20 15:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋