My father is living but will not be attending my wedding. My mom suggested that my brother walk down the aisle with me in place of my father, as per the traditional "giving away the bride". I would prefer that my fiance and I simply walk to the alter together, following the bridesmaids and bridesgrooms. Has anyone seen this done before? Is it a major faux pas?
2007-03-20 08:38:31 · 33 answers · asked by praisethemoon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
When my sister got married she walked part way down the aisle herself and then the groom met her halfway, took her hand, and they walked together to the end. The symbolism was that they were meeting each other halfway...like they will in their lives together. It was cute.
I had my father walk me down, but was annimate that he was not giving me away. I said he escorted me, and then instead of the minister asking "who gives this woman" he asked my parents to stand and asked them if they accept my husband into our family as a son and then had my husband's parents stand and asked them if they would accept me into their family as a daughter.
I was just telling you that to point out that everyone does something differently. It's your wedding, it won't be weird, and its your day to with what you want.
Good luck!
2007-03-20 08:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm in the same situation... well was my father just passed recently but even if he hadn't he wouldn't be attending the wedding and my brother and I don't get along very well so I too have thought about walking to the alter with my husband to be but then I remembered that I have some great uncles that I know would walk me down the aisle in a heartbeat. I am close to both, one more so than the other and the other is my godfather.
2007-03-20 08:45:46 · answer #2 · answered by jessicamichelle 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You certainly don't have to be "given away"...this comes from the old "tradition" of women being the property of their men - first their father, then their husband. If you're not owned by anyone, I certainly see no need for them to give you away!
I might recommend that you just walk down the aisle by yourself. Then you could meet your fiance at the altar, and walk away as husband & wife.
Congratulations!
2007-03-20 08:49:55 · answer #3 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't a faux pas, but it does moot the idea of you walking down the aisle to join your husband, the symbolism being that from then on, you will be walking through life together. But if you really want to, it isn't some horrible thing.
Your mother can walk you down the aisle, I have seen that. You can walk alone, or with your bridesmaids. Like a girl-solidarity thing.
If you don't want your brother giving you away, don't have it. It should be the thing you most want.
2007-03-20 08:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
This is your wedding and it is all about you.So if you feel that you'd like to walk down the aisle with your soon to be groom then that is what you should do.Remember this is your big day,do not let anyone try to interfere.If someone says something about it just smile and say firmly "We have decided to do it this way." And yes I have seen it done that way.The bride's father had passed away and she was not too keen on asking one of her uncles cause if she picked one the others would be hurt.I wish you and you groom the very best of luck and much joy.
2007-03-20 09:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes I have seen the bride and groom walk down together. And when the minister askes who gives this girl away than your mother can stand up and say her father and I do, than she sits back down. Don't have your brother, thats just a bit strange and unheard of. Your mother could also be a good choice. I have seen many wedding where the mother would walk the bride down the aisle.
Congratulations
2007-03-20 08:44:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Who cares about traditions or faux pas- it's your day, you have the right to do it however you want to. If walking down the isle with your man makes you happy then do it. I would suggest going it alone though. There's no better feeling in the world than to have your man standing there waiting for you and smiling at you the whole way down the isle....
2007-03-20 08:46:24 · answer #7 · answered by NikkiWy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think the best solution is for you to walk down the aisle alone. The symbolism of you walking down to meet the groom is that you will be joined there, and for life. If you walk down together, that kinds of takes away that symbolism, which is nice, really...you don't need anyone to "give you away"-I never really liked that idea very much anyway.
2007-03-20 09:14:07 · answer #8 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I perform weddings for a living. The rule now is it is ok to throw out old traditions as many of the couples I have united over the years have done. You just custom make your ceremony the way you feel comfortable.
2007-03-20 08:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with that at all. If you prefer to be more traditional, you can walk down alone. You do NOT have to be "given away", after all you are not someone's unwanted property!
IF the officiant is going to ask "who gives this woman..." have your entire family stand and say "we do" or better yet, have your officiant ask you and your husband to be if you both come of your own free will instead, since you are each your own person.
2007-03-20 08:47:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋