My Boyfriend is in the Navy and lives a few states away from me. We will be seeing each other every couple months this year until I move down there with him. Have have been together for a few years now but I am still not able to get used to him going out to sea for anywhere from 2 weeks to 2 months. Everytime he leaves it gets harder. Our only comunication at that time is email that is delayed 3 days. He does the typical thing of telling me not to worry but I can't seem to help it. It scares me so much knowing that he is out to sea and I am 10 states away from him and if anything happened to him I wouldn't be able to be down there by his side right away. Can anyone help me find ways to ease my mind about him being gone so much? I work and I go to the gym and go out with my girlfriends but once I get home and I lay down in bed to try and go to sleep all that worry just sort of comes back to me. How do I relax and try and calm down?
2007-03-20 08:23:47 · 4 answers · asked by Jacki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Having dated a military man I can definitely sympathize. It's hard not to worry given our country's present situation and the fact that you can't have contact with him as often as you'd like. If you are a spiritual person, prayer might help you to cope with it. Just offer your worries up to God (or whatever deity you believe in) and ask that no matter what happen they give you the strength to get through it.
You may also benefit from seeking out support groups. Google "Military wives/girlfriends" and I'm sure you'll be able to find lots of support and encouragement from people in similar situations. A lot of times just venting to someone else who understands can do wonders.
2007-03-20 08:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by Vivita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to accept the fact that that is a part of him that won't go away until his service time is up. Take into account that aside from the Coast Guard, the navy is one of the "safer" branches of the military(unless he's a SEAL). He'll be fine and so will you.
2007-03-20 08:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey military is a hard life, it is not a easy one to adjust to
but if you love him remember it is part of his life
and to the idiot who said all wifes whore around.... YOUR WAY OFF a lot do but NOT ALL BUDDY. 28 years travling with my man I never cheated. I knew a lot of very faithful wifes. but Id say more than 1/2 did cheat but dont blame all of us for what a few idiots do
2007-03-20 08:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your not cut out for this, some women can't take the distance. I know I couldn't.
2007-03-20 08:27:44 · answer #4 · answered by loving U 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋