I have this friend who is really friendly and complimenting me on one hand but on the other, indirectly puts me down at the same time.
For example, I am tall but very very attractive and a few pounds over weight but certainly not obese or fat and he can see this for himself but he seems to always say hurtful things like "oh yes, I know this girl who is just absolutely gorgeous and thin and blah blah........as if he is really trying to make a point of it and to somehow make me feel bad. I ignore it most of the time but it does get to me a lot when I am always saying good stuff about him and to his face.
It's as if he wants to make me feel ugly for being beautiful and can't bear to see me good at anything. I feel worthless due to his comments but can't tell him to shut up about women all of the time. I don't fancy him at all so it's not about that either.
2007-03-20 08:02:34 · 6 answers · asked by Shikira-trudi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The emphasis upon the thinness of the woman is what gets to me. Why say it?????? - I am 34 in april and am not meant to look like a 21 year old! - the girls he goes on about are young and he is 32.
I look young facially and suppose makes him think of me as being younger than I am as if I am meant to compete with younger girls?
2007-03-20 08:06:05 · update #1
Why do you talk to this asshole? You need someone who never puts you down...even indirectly. You don't need to hear that...if he isn't positive towards you (even if the negativity is indirectly directed at you) don't speak with this guy. You should never let a guy dictate how you feel about yourself. I'm sure you are very beautiful...and he is just an idiot who can't remember how old he is. Don't let this make you feel bad or worthless. Never ever let a guy do that!!!!
2007-03-20 08:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay - Why can't you tell him to shut the hell up? Tell him how he's making you feel. He probably doesn't realize he's making you feel that way. he may not even think you're a big girl, or too tall or anything - usually when someone thinks you're fat, they won't talk about "fat" or "thin" people around you - because they know you're sensitive. Have a little more confidence, sweetheart. If you're happy with yourself, and you think you're beautiful - then who cares what he thinks. Everyone is critical - people always have flaws wether it be too skinny, too fat, too plain, whatever. People will always talk - dont let it get to you
2007-03-20 08:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by beckyvincenzes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys talk about girls... every man has a different taste in girls. Some guys like girls who are stick skinny and other guys like a girl who is huge... most like the "in between".
If you don't like this guy, why does it matter what he says? Don't let it get you down. He might not even know he is insulting you, he might just be rambling.
Just stop hanging around with him if it upsets you so much.
2007-03-20 08:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need to consider if you want to keep this friendship. A true friend would not want to make you feel bad about yourself. Also sounds to me like you are proud of who you are other then letting his words penetrate your mind so I say cut the friendship with him stay strong stay true and remember as long you feel beautiful don't worry what other people think!!
2007-03-20 08:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by Karma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought he may have a crush on you?? Guys have a very funny way of showing you they like you. If I were you I would talk to him about it. NO one deserves to be put down...NO ONE
2007-03-20 08:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does not sound like he could make you feel ugly when you seem to think you are so beautiful
you are both weird
2007-03-20 08:07:19 · answer #6 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋