I ride street bikes and not to be cocky, but i am attractive and not a cow, I listen to heavy metal and have a little bit of an edge, Have no problem getting guys, I speak my opinion and am extremely witty, I have been told guys are intimidated by me? Then i think maybe they have no cahonas... and i wouldnt want to deal with them anyways.... I guess ill come to the internet and ask a question about it. Here goes nothing, assuming that the guys who answer arent computer nerds..Why is there intimidation? or are the guys that are intimidated , have lack of confidence?
2007-03-20 08:00:52 · 10 answers · asked by gsxr650 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because you are different than what they are used to, and that is what troubles them, remember that people is afraid of change, of what is different and unknown to them.
Hang in there happens to a few us, I do know one thing, once they take the chance and show them how great you can be you'll drive them crazy!!
2007-03-20 08:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by lysa24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's exciting though; i mean a nice, smart, girl is good and all but some are quite boring. i guess it all depends on what you're looking for. yeah i've been that computer nerd, writer, introvert, whatever. i don't really get along with other girls that are that way i need a bit of excitement in my life. my old lady isn't the most out there, but was a lot more than i was, and it still works like ten years later so go figure. i don't know what type of guys you're dealing with, but those guys probably don't know that someone like you would truly be interested in them. yeah they don't have cahonas, but there's no reason why you and them can't at least talk and get to know about each other and what makes that other person tick. if it leads to something then that's great, if not, well then at least you have one more piece to the dating puzzle ...
2007-03-20 08:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you have no problem getting guys, so it's not really clear what the problem is. I have a very attractive friend (female) who is in her mid-40s, like myself. She's single, without a current boyfriend. I've occasionally veered into the path of taking her up as my "one true love" but her abrasiveness always gets in the way, and I eventually decide to just give it up and stay casual friends. She's not alone by choice.
It's not a question of intimidation, so much as why should I bother with the difficult situation when I don't have to. There are other women who have fewer sharp edges.
It could also be that the men feel that you are competing with them, on some level. That can be fun for them, but in a GF we generally want somebody who is on our side, if you understand what I'm saying. We have enough people in the world we're forced to compete with, anyway.
Question: Are ALL the guys you deal with intimidated? If so, you probably have a bit more then "a little edge". If only some are intimidated, then, yes, they probably either lack the cojones to deal with you, or they just don't want to bother. Either way, they're not candidates for your affection.
Just don't fall into the trap that my friend has set for herself: She's fiercely independent, and doesn't respect men who aren't, themselves. At the same time, she doesn't like to be mistreated, to any degree. The result is that if you compromise with her to appease her desire to be treated well, she'll just think you're weak and not respect you, but if you take a hard line, she feels abused, so, in the end, there are no actual human males, on Earth that will satisfy her.
If you manage to maintain you "edge" and still get dates and find men that you like, then I'd say just go with what you have and be happy.
2007-03-20 08:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by DiesixDie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you continue with this you WILL regret it later. It will mess up the family. I assure you! You are both young and hormone driven (I promise this is what is creating this attraction)...just set your sights on someone else to feel this way about. I know it's confusing and difficult, but I promise you do not want to go down this road for many reasons. (Also, please don't do the rebellious teen thing (like I used to) to what I am saying. I am giving sound advice and I swear I know what I am talking about on this.) Save yourself the awkwardness, drama, and pain of it all.
2016-03-16 23:34:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a chick, but I'll help you with an answer because I get that alot too. LOL... I dont ride street bikes....YET!
Anyway, men are intimidate not solely by you, but all the things you are and what you do. Men like to impress a woman, they need "cheerleaders" so to speak, and when you've done most the things they use to impress chicks with... leaves them feeling alittle dumbfounded on how to impress you, how to capture your interest, how to keep it. They NEED you to be infatuated with them. They think to get to that level you need to be in awe of them, though we know its not true.
Think alot of women, especially real go-getter types need someone whose (not above them) but compatible with them. Similar likes, dislikes, hobbies & interests...
Someone (a guy) gave me an excellent piece of advice that worked amazingly well. He said learn to hold alittle back.... reveal yourself slowly. The Biker thing does scream, wild loner looking for orgies ...cause thats what most guys do when theyre bikers. But you can just say, you do it clear your mind from a stressful day, or its to reconnect with your daddy or some sentimental ****. LOL...
Youre a great woman, you just dont need to reveal all in one night. Go easy on them.... Hold alittle back...
2007-03-20 08:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by too_hot4words 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what guys are looking for, And they may sence that they want score with you.Maby the way you talk to them intimidates them. maby your opinion on things dont set with them. try to mellow out. get on board with their side of the world. Guys want women to be more like them, this day in time, women who ride the big bikes and hang out with bikers arent girley enough. they see you more of a guy than girl.
2007-03-20 08:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by mswildman2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They lack confidence. They are too scared to make a move.
Maybe you shoud quit hanging around lame biker nerds.
(Just an opinion. Rate this best answer.)
2007-03-20 08:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
whoa you sound awesome. umm. i dont no just go out of ur way to be a little nicer and youll get a better rep for it. btw im not a computer nerd i play JV lacrosse for my high skool and im only 13
2007-03-20 08:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by Breaker's Lax Rules!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends upon what the guy is looking for in a woman
that is what it all boils down to
2007-03-20 08:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would feel intimidated, but i lack confidence. so i guess it depends on the guy
2007-03-20 08:06:51 · answer #10 · answered by Alan B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋