If you think yes or no explain why.
2007-03-20 07:58:18 · 28 answers · asked by ♥ Can you help me? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can you elaborate by what you mean by benefits?
2007-03-20 08:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by Cyn 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think its a good idea. Personaly I have been able to have these types of relationships when i wasnt looking for anything serious. You have to set ground rules, and make sure that you are honest with your friend. If more than just friends feelings pop up, talk about them in the beginning and most of the time this is the place to stop the relationship, or possibly take it to the next level. However never under any circumstances get into a "friends with benefits" deal with the intention of becoming more than friends, just because you make someone go crazy in bed, doesnt mean they will turn around and love you. it just doesnt happen like that all the time. So yah, if there are relationship feelings for someone that just wants to be friends but have some fun. say no. but if it is fair game, and your doing it for the sole purpose of fulfilling that need. than proceed.
2007-03-20 15:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by sjhockeyfan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a good idea as long as you both know that "friends with benefits" will mean that one or the other will in fact meet someone else and you'll no longer be the booty call until a break-up with the new person. Also, one or the other WILL start having feelings and that'll suck if the other is only there for sex and nothing else. So, basically I guess what I'm saying is "NO, it's not a good idea unless you are prepared to get hurt in the long run".
2007-03-20 15:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No way. I know from personal experience. I've had some guy friends, we become very close, fool around a little. I develope feelings for him. The next day he's with some other chick, doing the same thing.
Basically, "friends with benefits" is a way of saying "I may or may not like you. this is kind of like dating, but since it's not official I can have as many friends with benefits as I want and I don't care how you feel."
2007-03-20 15:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think friends with benefits is a good idea as long as both people have the same understanding of what is going on. Its definately a lot safer than sleeping around. Keep it to one person. It may be hard to maintain that idea, especially if feelings become involved from either side. if that happens, it needs to be brought to the attention of the other person
2007-03-20 15:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by smartie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It just depend on the mood. I'm single and I enjoy it. I love to do whatever I want, whenever I want and however I want, without give explanation to nobody. To have a "Friend with benefit" is good if you are not ready for a serious relationship. If you do it with respect, it works. You have someone to have a good time with, and at same time you have your own space. Of course, some times you might think that you would like to have a serious relationship, and other times (especially when you see other couples) you will be happy to have just a "Friend with Benefits"
2007-03-20 15:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by bb4u 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes and no........if it is straight friendship and you are in-between relationships so you are sleeping with each other and there are no hard feelings when one person has to end it because they found someone, then yes, it's fine. Better than sleeping around with strangers or whatever ( sorry, we all need sex! )
I think the problem is sex is not always just sex. For one person it may turn into a more emotional connection. To be blunt, he could be just screwing you and you may start falling for him. Men rarely confuse sex with love but I think women do it often. I find it near impossible to have sex with someone without feeling something....affection, etc... So be careful. What seems like a convenient arrangement now may end in heartbreak later.
2007-03-20 15:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think Friends with benefits are a bad idea. But that's my opinion because guys are just wanting your benefits!
2007-03-20 15:03:57 · answer #8 · answered by inlove1st 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO
I cant stress that enough. Why would you want to get ureself stuck in an emotional rollercoaster because one of you is gonna get emotionally attatched. Thats a perfect way to ruin a friendship.
I was in the same situation...We were best friends at work. We had lunch 2gether and we shared secrets and stuff like that.. We decieded to hook up here and there and sometimes even at work. At some point stuff got way outta hand...We had so much drama due to jealousy among other stuff and so much BS that our bosses had to intervene (total embarassment). I do regret havng a FWB becoz we dont talk at all and we cant be in the same room together. Its actually to the point where we cant work 2gether and our bosses put us in different departments. Lucky we wasnt fired...
Dont put yourself through the unecessary drama...PLIZ dont...
2007-03-20 15:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by ask n ye shall recieve 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's fine if that's what someone is interested in having, instead of being in a more serious relationship. Just make sure everyone involved is on the same page with re: to it being a casual sex relationship, and not a dating/romantic one.
Sometimes one person will begin to develop feelings for the other though, so care needs to be taken that it's kept more superficial...but there's nothing at all wrong with having "friends with benefits" as long as all of you are honest with each other.
2007-03-20 15:03:05 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if that is what you want and you both agree, that friends with benefits is just that, then yes it is a good idea. no sleep over, no spending to much time. dont catch feelings because then you will be stuck and the other will not have feelings. have fun while you can.
2007-03-20 15:13:50 · answer #11 · answered by soto_a81 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋