how soon b4 u know there the one?

Question

ive only been with my boyfriend now for 2 months and i already feel like he's the one, how soon is too soon? im not planning to marry him tomorrow or anything but how soon do you wait b4 you know it's right?

just to say, im 24,and have been married before i also have a child. and my boyfriend has said that he feels like im the one. it's me that's hesitant

Answer 1

I think that it depends upon how many relationships you have had.
My wife and I knew after 4 weeks, but I had been married before, and she had been with a guy for 9 years before.
We both know what we wanted from a partner this time around.
We got enagaged after 4 weeks, married after 10 months, and will be celebrating our 13th wedding anniversary this year.

Answer 2

It's different for everyone...for some people it might take a day for them to know others a few months and some a year or more. Right now it doesn't seem as if you're dead certain that your current boyfriend is the one so wait it out a bit and test the waters and see what he's really like...if he changes within a few months from the guy you had imagined him to be then maybe he's not the one...give yourself some time and don't worry about it too much...you'll know at the right moment.

Answer 3

there's a rush of love that you get at the start but that often simmers down a little as time gets on. It's what happens next that's important - six months to a year is when the differences between people start to show and it's how you manage it and communicate which makes all the difference, it's not whether you have rows (which is normal) but it's whether you two have enough communication and desire to make up and be friends again.
Once you have got through a couple of blips together, made up a few rows and are still happy together - I think that's kind of when you know that this is a person that you can spend the rest of your life with. It's not just about how you spend the good times, it's how you can weather and get through the bad times together. If you can do that, and you're still smiling - well, heck, that's the one to spend your life with!

Answer 4

I'm going to answer this in two ways.

First is my pragmatic answer - I don't think there is 'the one' I believe that there are many people that you could be with on the face of the planet who would make you life a much better place to be. I also think that there are people who feel so right for the moment but as you grow up and on they aren't for the next moment. I also think that after only two months you are way too caught up in the excitement of it all to be thinking 'this is it'.

But my romantic answer is that I think it comes in stages. When i met my husband it was like a film - in my mind he was spotlit and choirs of angels sang and all that cliche. Then Ibegan to suspect that we had something special after about a month when we got into a very intellectual conversation about mitochondrial dna and it was exciting to me to meet someone who was gorgeous but really very clever too. Then afer about a year together we planned a weekend away but my car wouldn't start so I offered up a spell (I'm a practicing Wiccan) sort of doing a deal with the elements that if this was meant to be the car would start and if not then I would bow out gracefully - it started. I feel that the world likes us being together because good things happen to us when we are together and that is good enough for me, for now.

Answer 5

Everyone is unique and there are many more things than just feeling in love that are needed for selection of our life-partners.

For this reason, I have seen people I know have the best success where they don't just follow a short-term urge to choose someone. It also depends on age and the more mature that we are, the better the chance that we will choose someone for the right reasons.

As we are all living much longer than ever before, a life long commitment is for a considerably longer time than it used to be. Take care and don't rush it anything.

Good luck! Rob

Answer 6

It happens unexpectedly. You just know it. For some people it can take 30 years for other people it can take 5 months. There is not a standard time limit. However if you are asking yourself this question you're not sure he's the one yet. Because if he really is the one you wouldn't even wonder about these things. They will develop naturally.

Answer 7

3 years. =)

Answer 8

When it's right you just know, go with the feelings....
Don't rush into, moving in together, kids and marriage, but enjoy it, take it slow, there's no rush...
Also try and find out if he feels the same?
Good luck with this and i hope it lasts....
PS: i've had a "few" that have been "the one" lol, it's a learning thing, have fun!!!
Luv, Lou, using richards account, and YES... he's the "one" lol

Answer 9

With my husband I still couldnt tell you hun. The one for me after I left my husband took less than two months. My first thiought was not to say I love you right away. When he said it while he was getting out of the car when I took him to work one day, I knew that i loved him as well.

♥lol ♥

Answer 10

My now ex fiance and i knew the 3rd date, and the 6th date... I asked her to marry me. Then I lied to her, to make somthing about my PAST not as bad as it was, i told her i would tell her about my past when i was ready. On the 5th date, I told her when i was completely smashed about my past. She mistook a reoccuring nightmare for a reality, i guess i didn't really make that clear.... anyways she broke up with me six months later and we are now friends.... I say go for it, but be careful... Please be careful when you wanna know somthing and he doesn't want to tell you, unless he is cheating or suspected of cheating. but PLEASE dont let the same mistake i made screw a relationship up, it hurts so bad in the end, and you feel like your nothing, worthless...