Does Anyone have a good poem to send to A Step- Grandmother that treats my kids like they are dirt, when she treats the other 3 BLOOD grandkids like gold. She used to treat my great, because my kids were the first grandkids, then when the other kids were born, mine were place on the WAY FAR BACK burner. Then she made a comment to my sister-in-law, that it is hard being a step-grandmother. I say it's only hard if you make it hard, and my kids don't go around calling her step-grandma..... they only know her as grandma.
2007-03-20 07:51:28 · 11 answers · asked by shelley337 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Forget the poem. Stay away from the woman. Your kids don't need that in their lives anyways.
2007-03-20 08:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say forget about the poem as it will only make matters worse.
I am the grandmother of 5 and the step-grandmother of 2. She is missing out on a lot of pleasure your children would bring to her. It is her loss.
It is not hard being a step-grandma. After all............who can't love children.I would ask your husband to intervene for you and your children and have a talk with his mother. Explain the way she's behaving is hurting your family. Maybe she doesn't realize exactly what she's doing. However ............I wouldn't push the issue too much as she may just come around on her own given more time.
Does she see your children often? That may help also.
I hope you can get this resolved for all your sakes and all the best.
2007-03-20 08:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have many issues with my in-laws but at least they were excellent grandparents to my sons from a previous marriage. I'm sorry that you're going through this. She talks nonsense, how can it be difficult? BTW - I've recently become a step grandmother and you just treat them all the same.
I'd make a point of calling her "step-grandmother" if she continues. Maybe she'll get the message. And ask your sister-in-law to pass on that you know what is going on, too.
2007-03-20 11:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to bring it to her attention that the kids are the ones that will be hurt by the situation. He should just say that if they are not going to treat them like part of the family then you all will have a family without them. then do that. if you and your husband allow it to continue they won't stop. they will see how it feels to suddenly be excluded from a loved ones life. it might not change the way she feels, but maybe the kids will not get hurt do to her stupidity. also, don't hold it against the other grandkids or parents (it doesn't sound like you are, but it goes that way sometimes) because they have probably not done anything to encourage this.
2007-03-20 09:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by destiny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None, but my kids have blood grandparents who treat them like dirt too, so don't feel too badly. Basically, it's taken care of itself too, because my kids are older now (13 and almost 17) and neither one is too thrilled to spend any amount of time with their grandparents. They only do it if their dad and I just outright force them to, and we don't force the issue too much. My mom in law will every so often comment on how she'd "love to see the kids more often." I just tell her they're here, any time she'd like to stop by would be fine. Needless to say, she never stops by.
If you want to say something to her, I would reccommend that the parent who is actually related to the woman say something. If she's your step mom, you do it, if she's your hubby's, let him do it. Tell her how the way she's treating your children is making you feel, and how this is eventually going to turn around and be very detrimental to any future relationship she'll have with them. You might also talk to the actual father who has married her, and bring him in on the discussion as well. Eventually though, your kids will figure out that grandma and grandpa don't have much use for them, and they'll drop them like a bad habit.
2007-03-20 08:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this needs sorting out
i am not sure whose stepmother she is yours or your husbands but whichever it is BOTH of you go to her but the one whose step mother it is does most of the talking about this issue with her
ask her why when she was doing such a great job as a grandmother at the start she decided to let it slide? and show favoritism?
give her the chance to be told that her behaviour has changed and is unfair and you and the kids are find it hurtful
if after that she still wont have that she has done anything wrong then damage limitation is the order of the day and avoiding her - putting the kids emotional wellbeing first has to take priority over her need to play favourites
2007-03-20 08:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, complicated problem. i have undemanding human beings to brush aside step grandchildren, which i imagine is horribly unfair, yet your dad and mom are for sure very fantastic human beings and attempt to comprise her. If she replaced into so ungrateful then truly she would not deserve very a lot in any respect from them. i'd be furious if my infant dared say 'that's all i'm getting?' to everyone, no count number what the present replaced into! i am hoping your husband replaced into bypass including her! at the same time as a baby reacts like that it would not make you want to delight them. Why ought to they be able to escape with undesirable behaviour and then get 'rewarded' for it. Your dad and mom are completely interior their rights to assert to her 'you've been disenchanted with the gives you we were given you very last time, so this time we haven't were given you some thing.' sure, it may sound petty, yet she's 10, no longer a infant basically starting up to study manners. It sounds like she's too spoiled. My cousin also has a lot of relatives, and is the in undemanding words infant on that area of my relatives, so very last year she had quite some gives you and she too replaced into retaining such issues as 'is that each one they have offered me?' little ones favor to locate the fashion to worth presents, and if which ability no longer getting as many then so be it. in spite of the undeniable fact that, that's Christmas and she is a baby, so i'm particular she'll get some thing out of your dad and mom, yet your husband needs to have a note in her ear about how she disenchanted them very last year and that she needs to you should truthfully say thanks this time.
2016-12-02 07:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise would be to stay away from Grandma. My husband of 5 years is the Grandpa to my grand angels. He doesn't even notice that its not his blood in their veins. He just loves them. I wouldn't bother with a poem. It doesn't sound like she's worth it.
2007-03-24 06:25:28 · answer #8 · answered by Cathy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. I know first hand how this feels, fortunately now I have a new mother in law who loves my kids as her own.
I don't know why you would want to return rudeness to her, she wont get it anyway. some people blood is just thicker than water, which is really sad. I pitty her and her. Point out her rude and neglectfulness.
2007-03-20 08:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were to send a poem, make it one of appreciation. Harshness only causes more conflict. Try talking to her about the situation. Keep in mind, (no offense) blood is thicker than water.
2007-03-20 08:16:28 · answer #10 · answered by J Doe 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋