My sister-in-law is constantly saying bad things about my sister to me. My SIL tends to exaggerate things or flat out lie about things. I know half the stuff isn't the truth but I hold my tongue. My sister tell me bad things about our sister-in-law but I tend to believe her because she's my sister. I feel caught in the middle cause I do feel a loyalty to my sister but also to my sister-in-law. If I tell the other what was said then I hurt either my sister or sister-in-law. Either way I don't know how to handle this. What should I do?
2007-03-20 07:47:36 · 14 answers · asked by Kimmy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
blood is thicker than water. you can talk bad about your family, but better not anybody else. kapeesh!? Tell your SIL that she needs to shut her pie hole.
2007-03-20 08:00:11 · answer #1 · answered by Ya Ya 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Refuse to participate in any backbiting, because that's what they're doing. The minute one of them starts trash talking the other to you, just simply smile and tell them this.
"I'm sorry you seem to not be able to get along with so and so. I've never had any problems with her. If you do have some issues, maybe it would be in the best interests of family harmony for you to bring those up with her, rather than talking with me about it. I really don't want to listen to anymore negativity about my sister/sis in law."
2007-03-20 15:37:32 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to handle this situation is to politely say to each "look I have a relationship with (sister or sister-in-law) that I want to maintain and you are putting me in a very uncomfortable position. If you don't have something positive to say about (sister or sister-in-law) please don't say anything to me about her at all. I really appreciate you understanding in this situation. Love ya. good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-20 15:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in the middle, and a way out could be to question what the SIL or SIS says.
"Are You Sure ?"
"Do You Think So ?"
That will create doubt in their minds, and it may cause them to rethink what they say about the other, to you
anyway.
A harsher way would be to reproach them or express disbelief.
Good Luck
2007-03-20 15:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by Murray H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell them what the other is saying your going to start a huge fight and get caught up in the middle which is what you don't want to happen. Keep your mouth shut and tell them you don't want to hear it anymore. Tell them to keep you out of it.
2007-03-20 14:58:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them both the same thing.... you don't want to get involved OR hear bad gossip about the other one.
Eventually they will stop bringing their problems to you.
2007-03-20 15:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell both of them to stop saying those things about eatch other and keep u out of the middle if there gunna say that stuff they should say it to the other person... and if thay dont wanna do that then its there problem just try to stay out of it and if they start to say something eather walk away or say u have something better to do then listen to them talk crap.
2007-03-20 14:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by ashley G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Correct both of them sternly and seperately '
Let them know your not playing favorites and that your tired of the complaining and how that makes you feel, ask them to
respect you and show them you are above all the bickery and childish behavior.
2007-03-20 15:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by ____ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the sister in law that she is talking about your sister and you don't like it and would rather she not do that around you
tell the sister that she is talking about your sister in law who you evidently like and you don't want her to do that around you
tell them both if they have a problem with each other to take it to them and leave you out of it
be cool...
2007-03-20 14:53:03 · answer #9 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell both of them to solve the problem themselves and not get you in the middle of the whole argument.
2007-03-20 14:50:58 · answer #10 · answered by boricua_chick_21 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell your sister in law how you feel and that you don't appreciate being put in that position. if she respects you, you will say sorry and be nice.
2007-03-20 14:50:55 · answer #11 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋