See i kinda have this boyfriend and he really wants to do it but im not really sure if im ready or if hes the one What should i do
2007-03-20 07:45:57 · 22 answers · asked by Rae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont sell yourself short. you obviously have doubts about it..... otherwise you wouldnt be asking the question.
if you have your doubts it probably isnt the right thing to do.
you also mention that your boyfreind realy wants to. im going to assume he has talked to you about it.
a guy who asks for it or try's talking you into doing it.... is ussually only after that.
sex is something that should happen naturally. you dont discuss it, ask about it, or even pressure it.
ask yourself what is romantic about setting in a room and having your bf or gf ask you if you want to have sex and then doing it???? nothing!!!
it should just happen without discussing it or being asked. you will know when your ready, trust me. there will be a moment when your stomach gets biutterflies, your toes curl, and you sweat without knowing why. you will have a guy who will expierience the same thing and it will just happen.
never ever sell yourself short with a guy who asks for it. statistically women ussually get dumped shortly after by guys who ask.
besides, if he realy loves you he will understand & wait!
and this advice coming from another guy!
2007-03-20 08:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by K2K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't made you want sex, he isn't even ready. You'll know you are ready when you feel like you've been holding back for no good reason. Right now you are holding back because you aren't sure about him or sex. You might still have a doubt in your mind when you are ready, but for the most part you'll be wanting sex.
He needs to make you want him--that's all there is to it. If he is trying to use logic, guilt, or threats to get anywhere, don't feel bad about shutting him down--that stuff rarely works in relationships, and shouldn't work in yours.
2007-03-20 08:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey first of all if your asking this question then your not ready!!! I think that when your ready you will know in your heart that it is something that you really want to do! It will be with someone who is willing to wait until your ready and someone that you see your self with for a long time!! Be careful girl!!!
2007-03-20 07:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should think about yourself, not your boyfriend. In my opinion it depends on love. And you would know in your heart if you truly love him, that isn't a question you should ask. If you are in love, truly in love, and ready I think that you are ready, wouldnt be asking this question It is important for you to believe that you are ready for such a big step in your life.
I was a sophmore in high school when I lost my virginity. I only did it because all of my friends and boyfriend's friends were doing it. I did not love him like I should have and was not truly ready. So when making your decision, dont think about what your boyfriend thinks, and think about yourself first.
2007-03-20 07:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by s..... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you just "kinda" have a boyfriend: you're not ready.
if you wanna "do it" because he does: you're not ready.
if you have to ask the question: "am I ready?": you're not ready.
Wait until you are SURE that it's what YOU want and no one else. Your first time (for a girl) is something you will never forget! So make sure you don't do it too soon, or with someone you will later regret.
2007-03-20 07:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not really sure if you're ready, the answer is easy. You're not. If you "kinda" have a boyfriend, the answer is easy. He's not the one. When the answer is yes to both questions, you'll know.
2007-03-20 07:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still a virgin don't do it right now. Some people think you should what until your married. Some say you don't but you should wait until you know you are in love and have dated the person for a long time.
2007-03-20 07:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by burn409 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will only know when you can answer this question for yourself and your mind lets you know that your body is ready to learn to live this way!! Take your time. You are young and there is a world to see!!
2007-03-20 07:54:17 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it truly is a few thing that in undemanding words you'll know the answer to. we are able to not truly allow you to know once you're waiting because we do not know ways you experience. if you're waiting to free it and also you know that's the right individual, then bypass for it. yet do not do it basically to delight your boyfriend. If he loves you as a lot as you adore him, then he may wait until eventually you're honestly particular you're waiting to free your virginity. Making him 'wait' heavily isn't a sturdy thanks to positioned it; if he loves you, he'd experience free to attend an eternity so that you may be waiting. :) desire i replaced into of help!
2016-12-02 07:25:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not 18 don't do it. And don't do it unless you are ready. And not just with any guy. Make sure to both care for each other. All guys want sex.
2007-03-20 07:57:26 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋