She's the girl next door (literally), and there's nothing I could have done to avoid having a crush on her, I simply fell in love. But she doesn't seem to be interested in me at any higher level than plain friendship. I already told her about my feelings, but it's been useless. She keeps dating me sometimes, probably for pity, but there are other guys after her. A guy named Hector has got her attention as I never dreamed of. I'm quiet sure his just like the others, looking for a chance to hit and run... meanwhile I stand watching as my sweet lady goes away. I know my feelings are pure and my intentions are noble, I'm just trying to do well, but odds are against me. Please, don't say I'm obsessed. Help me, I'm dying!!
2007-03-20 07:39:08 · 15 answers · asked by nezedgar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
quite the dilemma, there is nothing anybody can do to make her like you.nobody but you that is .if i had a magic genie i'd loan him to you just for the sake of romance .
Alot of times desperation will turn a girl off so dont go around with your heart on your sleeve.you dont want to embarrass her or yourself.
On the other hand stay steadfast in your pursuit get her to feel that she can trust you and always be there when she has a need.If its more than an infatuation you'll last for the long haul which may or maynot be the case .
Never let your frustration or pain show be the gentleman always and ever present.Dont make her feel uncomfortable if you really care as you say you don't want that anyway.
Hang in there and remember the path of true love never runs smooth .Wish you the best and be strong.
2007-03-20 08:02:12 · answer #1 · answered by ____ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not obsessed. What i would suggest is you should try dating other people. This is a gamble but sometimes when a girl you really like know's you are really into her they enjoy having you going crazy over them. Usually they want you to continue going crazy over them and hopefully never moving on until they are in a good stable relationship and would care less if you moved on. If i was in your position, i would stop asking her out and start dating other people. Still be friends with her but not give her as much attention as you seem to be giving her currently. Sometimes when a girl see's a guy is moving on the jelousy can force their true feelings out of them and then you might be home free. keep in mind though, this COULD BE A GREAT GUMBLE. And if she doesnt come around what can you do, its not like your job is to just sit there and watch her move on and have fun while you cross your fingers and hope she serioulsy looks your way one day. You just move on and find happiness somewhere else.
2007-03-20 14:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by Wondering.. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to not say obsessed when you use the word "dying" Dude bottom line a lot of girls go slumming before they settle down, maybe she wants to hit and quit a few dudes before she settles down. At any rate the best way to get her jealous is to bring a girl home and get her in bed have her scream your name real loud a few times. Just like the shampoo lather rinse repeat. If this chick is interested she'll make a move, didn't you ever see shallow hal man?
2007-03-20 14:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by Ross B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what that's like. From my experience, dying to be with a particular girl just never ended the way I wanted. You may have heard this already but focus on what you want to do with your life and what you want out of life (besides a girlfriend). Also, surely there are girls who like you already the way you are. Even if they're not pretty you can spend time with them and build up your social skills.
2007-03-20 14:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by Worlds Greatest Armchair Warrior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have told her how you feel, and she hasn't responded, I dont know how much more you can do. I would try at least, to have a sit down conversation with her, and see where she is at, and exactly how she feels about you, and to see if possibly you have what she is looking for, or maybe there are things you dont have, that she is looking for. This way you can get a better understanding of where she is coming from, and you can let her know exactly how you feel
2007-03-20 14:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by sjhockeyfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just periodically let her know you're thinking of her. Be romantic and thoughtful. Be sure not to "stalk" her, that would scare her away. Remember her b-day.
If she starts getting serious with someone, back-off. The fact is, sometimes love is a one-way street.
I do suggest occupying your time. Otherwise you might obsess over this . . and that's dangerous.
2007-03-20 14:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay on the inside, One day she may realize how much she means to you and what a great guy you are! Just be her friend for now. Good Luck.
2007-03-20 14:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by Casey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she just wnts to be friends, you will just have to suffer being friends for a while. if you think this other guy is going to use her and leave her, the right thing to do is just stay out of her other relationships and if what you think will hapens dose, and if so , she will notice that you are still their there caring for her. and hopefuly things will be better from there.
2007-03-20 14:48:04 · answer #8 · answered by Frankly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you already told her how you felt once and she basically blew you off, then your better off finding someone better. It is probably jsut an infatuation anyway that will go away with time.
2007-03-20 14:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by Nic-Nic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her. that will drive her crazy. dont try to make her jealous or anything but just stop showing her attention. she just knows you'll always be there and thats probably boring to her.
2007-03-20 14:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by Carly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋