Well.. I'm 19 years old.. and I've never kissed or been kissed, never had a real boyfriend and so obviously I'm a virgin. I don't think the virgin part's too weird, but.. I do think the unkissed part is super weird... and the boyfriend part too. I'm not ugly or anything.. I just don't get around so much cause I hardly have money and.. yeah, there are other reasons.. but anyway, the main point is, I've never really met anyone I liked. There have been many people I've been physically attracted to, but I didn't know them.. I just saw them around... Is that weird? How can I be 19 and have never met anyone I liked? All my friends have boyfriends and all that... It just seems.. so.. strange.. I've never met anyone I liked.. And.. well.. I'm not one of those people who just date.. I'm searching for someone special. But there hasn't even been anyone worth dating.. :(
2007-03-20 07:27:38 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey,it's okay. I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 20. Didn't go out on a date or get kissed until then either. With some people, they're just choosy or shy, or a combination of both. It'll happen eventually. I know everyone must tell you that all the time, but take it from someone who's been there, too--it really will happen. Good things come to those who wait.:) Good luck!
2007-03-20 07:31:58 · answer #1 · answered by Casey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends just like anything else. I was older than you when I lost my virginity and for a man in America that was definitely considered weird...but at the same time, I am a sane, well mannered gentleman. There are people that started having sex when they were 11...and I´m sure maybe 2 or 3 or 867 of them are weird ¨freaky´ sociopathic, puppie murderers. So, just like the real world, you take what you see, decide for yourself if it is weird, and if not, go for it. Trust me, as long as you have genitalea like most of us do, it´ll get used for that at some point. I thought I was going to be a virgin forever. Until, I lost it. Then I realized that I NEED to continue to be happy. And be happy to continue. And yes, I am eccentric, but I am not a weirdo, open up my trenchcoat for the women at the park type...lol. But hey, that doesn´t make me Abraham Lincoln or anything...either. Anyway, like I´m sure I´ve already said...It all depends on who looks at it and how they look at it. In a lot of places that sounds very ´NORMAL´ to me. Good luck.
2007-03-20 14:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by nassim420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it's weird at all!! I have this friend who was 17 almost 18 before she had her first boyfriend...and they didn't kiss until they had been together for 8 months! She wants to wait until she's married to lose her virginity... And they've been together about a year and a half. You just haven't found the right person yet. But, don't worry, your prince will come!
2007-03-20 14:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by Karen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sista Girl, what a beautiful gift you will have to give to that person of your dreams. NO, it is not weird. You have practiced self-control and because of that, it has made you a stronger person for it. Don't let anyone, including yourself make you feel pressured to do anything, that is not setting right with you. Your husband or significant other should be a person that will treasure what you treasure. You are doing beautifully. Because you waited, I believe you are going to get your dream. I think that a lot of those friends that have gone there with the kiss and all, if they could do it all over again, they would say, wait. Continue to make your own decisions, and not the pressures of others. Wait for your dream. Believe me, it's worth it. Be Encouraged.
2007-03-20 14:55:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not wierd but I know its frustrating b/c I was the same way. I wanted to like someone I just didnt! I had kissed a few by 19 but thats as far as it went. You will eventually find someone when the time is right and you meet the right person. Believe it or not, this is a good problem b/c there are many people who just fall so easily for so many people and thy end up in all sorts of problems. this isnt wierd, its good. you will be fine!
2007-03-20 14:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by samira 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is kind of weird. There needs to be more girls like you out there cause some girls don't know when to say no to a boy and date them for no reason. Yeah I can see why you don't want to date just any one you want a special some one. I relate to you in a way.
2007-03-20 14:47:10 · answer #6 · answered by Bandit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's perfectly fine.. trust me i know. i was a late bloomer myself.
i didn't date anyone in h.s. i had crushes, but no one i liked liked me back..and i was shy. and i was really awkward. i actually only grew into my looks AFTER college if u can believe it! the first boyfriend i had was freshman year in college when i was 18 going on 19. and after we broek up, i didn't date ANYONE until after college!!! so that is like a 5 year gap in between the 1st and 2nd boyfriend!! lol..
anyways, long story short, only u know what u are ready for. you sound extremely intelligent, mature, and comfortable with yourself. don't let outside thoughts make you doubt yourself. if u know you are pretty, smart, and a great person, u don't HAVE to "get around". just make sure u keep an open mind and work on being friendly, easy to talk to, positive, attractive, and easy going. all those positive qualities you have will actually Attract similar qualities in others, and u will soon see that u worried about nothing~~~ :)
don't let it lower ur self esteem. keep working on urself. be as attractive as u can. be as smart as you can. be as friendly and outgoing as u can. meet as many people as u can (for me, friends of friends was easier than strangers....now that i'm older, i can pretty much speak to any stranger and feel fairly comfortable). confidence is attractive, especially to guys. so just be a great person, and u'll be fighting em off! :)
2007-03-20 14:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's nothing to be embarrassed about too many people jump into relationships and end up in the wrong ones and getting hurt. You may feel strange but just realize how many people would gladly trade places with you to avoid the heart ache and mistackes they experienced from bad decisions. Just be patient when it's time things will happen and you will be glad you waited.
2007-03-20 14:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by BLADE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not weird! Searching for someone special takes time! Just wait a little longer! Get to know some guys in you college,hometown,church whatever and get to know them as a friend! You know what helps is if you make a list of things you are looking for in a guy then it would be easier to search for a guy worthy to date!
2007-03-20 14:32:44 · answer #9 · answered by made2luv33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the time is right you will find a love interest. It sounds as if you are happy with things the way they are and I might point out you should be proud of being a virgin at 19! God Bless you!
2007-03-20 14:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋