well im 18 and i wasnt getting my period for the longest time and ive had a boyfriend for over a year. He's very supportive of me and when we talked about it, i told him i wouldnt get an abortion if i was pregnant(im all for womens rights but i personally wouldnt be able to go through with it). He understood. One part of me was excited about possibly having a baby and another part of me was nervous as hell. I finally got my period and i was a little depressed and relieved at the same time. It was like i thought i was actually going to be starting something extrordinary. I dont have many friends, 2 close friends and 2 other friends that i hardly hang out with. i know im young yet but it was so awesome to think that i would be having a child. What do you think?
2007-03-20 07:17:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Yes, you are very young. I can understand that having a child would bring you a lot of joy and happiness and many think that it will strengthen you relationship with your partner. The truth is , I got pregnant when I was 19 and had my son when I was 20. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me but I still feel like I have missed out on a lot of my youth. Having a child will not strengthen you relationship it will test it in every shape and form. You have to have an extremely strong relationship for it to work before and after a child.
2007-03-20 07:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by Mandie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though you got your period you could still be pregnant.. you should get a test to make sure or go to the doctor.
I was 19 when I had my first child for me I was ready and in a long term relationship. Some people are ready to be a parent some are not just depends on the person.
For me it was a great time I loved every minute of being pregnant and being a parent.. I now have 3 kids..
But do know even though you say you do not have many firends understand that if you do have a baby life changes big time :) even going to the store becomes a job with the loading up the diaper bag and the baby, getting up at night for feedings or when he or she is sick, finding any time alone can be hard.. And if you do want to go out every so often it is not only you anymore, you have to think of the little one.. finding a sitter if you can ,Then having a certian time you will be back and so on..
Also it takes money and a job babies and then kids and then teenagers need things and those things take money at times more $ then what you / me or anyone may have..
I cant say if you are ready only you know that, but I do know it is one thing to feel you are ready but another thing when you are actually doing it.
If I were you I would use protection and wait a little longer and enjoy your young years, go out some with your friends have some fun, if in school graduate if out then maybe college or a job and save some money first get yourself on your own feet with your own place and so on then down the road when the time is right have a baby.
Yes I know we can not always plan a pregnancy but you are so young and you think it is awesome to have a baby and it can be, but still it is a lot of work and time.. 24/7 no time off for many years to come.. even when grown up and they have moved out you will always be a parent..
Have fun and enjoy your life you will gow up very fast as it is , so just enjoy.
2007-03-20 14:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by Tonya R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I at the tender of of 33 had my first child. It is the best thing I have ever done (not counting this really great 3-way in Frankfurt, J/K). However, if you wat children, I suggest you and whatever man it is going to be playing Daddy get a college degree. Not only will learn a lot more about real life, you will be a much more productive parent and between you and the future hubby, will generate an additional 1 1/2 to 2 million dollars in lifetime revenue that you almost certainly earn now. That pays for a lot of college and assisting your kids. So wait, get educated, make sure you are sleeping with Mr. Right and then have kids. Just remember there are no true days off in parenting. Even when they spend the weekend with the grandparents!
2007-03-20 14:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I got pregnant at 16 and I lost the baby, and when I got pregnant when I was 17, it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I know why you were upset that you weren't pregnant. I don't have many friends either, it's a nice feeling to have someone who depends on you and loves you unconditionally and that's what kids do. Now, I'm not saying that you need to go get pregnant or anything like that. I love my kids ( I have 2 now), but I missed out on alot of things because I was a mom. I wish I had waited, but it's done now and it changed my life. My kids give me a reason to live and to love. If you want to talk, I'm here for you, my IM is clickandfindit. I've been exactly where you are right now, and I know how you feel.
2007-03-20 14:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsey S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I remember having that same feeling also when I was 18. I thought I could have been pregnant and then when the test came back negative I felt so sad. Now looking back I am happy that I wasn't pregnant at that particular time because a few years later I wasn't even with that guy anymore and now at 26 I have 2 beautiful children. You will get pregnant when God wants you too. Until then Have fun with your life and get the "life" experience you will need to raise your child.
2007-03-20 14:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah i was 20 when i thought that way too....honestly though having a baby is not all roses and a cute little cuddly thing. It involves time, money and a lot of sacrificing. Although I love my son to death I wish i had waited until I was done with my education and had a better job when I first had him. As a mother I want my son to have the best and without money and a good job it was very hard to do that. He is now 7, and i haven't spent as much time with him as I want, but I am sacrificing alot in order to one day reach that goal. His father came and went so it is usually a woman's job when the father decides to leave. if you want to be a good mother, be smart and wait.
2007-03-20 14:24:36 · answer #6 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends more on your maturity level than it does your age. I was 21 and my husband had just turned 20 when we had our first son. We now have a 2 month olds son as well. We have been together since he was 18 and I was 20. Our family did freak out a little when they found out we were pregnant so soon, but to us, that was one of the happiest moments of our life.
2007-03-20 15:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by Katie R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got pregnant at 17 am now 24..trust me its not easy at all, if i had the Chance i would have waited but anyway. think of the possibilities you have you are "free" you have no responsibilities trust me the tough of a baby is exiting and nerv wrecking in a good way. but once that baby is here there is no going back, taking a break and relax. instead why dint you volunteer at your local children's hospital? school, mentor.
you have options, when you are a parent you don't have that luxury, when you do they are limited.
2007-03-20 14:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by .:peAchy:. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand where you are coming from. I am 15 weeks preganat right now conception was not intentional. Even though right now is prbably not the most opportune time for me to have a child, I am excited out of my mind. Just because the timing was bad doesn't mean you can't be excited.
2007-03-20 14:22:55 · answer #9 · answered by Maid of Constant Sorrow 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i was 18 when i got pregnant, i was only with my boyfriend for 8 weeks when i left him i found out i was 6 weeks pregnant with twins i was really upset when i found out. they r now 19 moths old and am still on my own. but having my boys was the best thing that's ever happened to me! if u feel u r ready for a baby it shouldn't matter how old you r! if u need to talk 2 sum1 email me @noah_elijah2005@yahoo.co.uk my name is Francesca and am happy to try n give u advice at any time.
2007-03-20 14:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋