I need help I don't know what to do any more?

Question

I have been suffering from depression and an anxitey nervous disorder as a result I have given up on my karate training (I try going back then I feel scared andd can't do it). I'm on medication I feel it's doing nothing for me. I am alone cut of from the world suicidal thoughts run through my mind (I won't act on them but I feel I would be better of dead) I just don't know what to do any more I feel so lonely without a friend in the world and I feel useless I feel like I am a complete waste of space all I want to do is sleep all day at least them I feel safe.
I just don't know what to do anymore.

Answer 1

I know its extremely hard, but believe me these feelings do NOT last forever. Your medication is clearly not working so I would suggest going back to your doctor and asking them to review it. Possibly ask for some cognitive behavioural counselling as well if you feel up to it - this will help you get over the barriers when you feel too scared to do something

I know you don't feel like doing anything, but some form of exercise, even just walking on your own will help lift your mood.

Most people have felt like this at some time in their life, I felt like it for about 5 years during my teens, but it does get better, I promise you. You have to help yourself a bit though, and seek out help from your doctor

Good luck, I hope things get better for you soon

Answer 2

You need professional help. The best thing you could have done is continue with your Karate training, but if you're too scared to do that, you must see your GP & get her/him to either change your medication, or refer you to a Community Psychiatric Nurse,(CPN). You must have a local mental care day hospital, somewere near where you live. Just walk in there, never mind the endless waiting list on the NHS, you'll get looked after the same day!.
I've been thro this, I've been on medication for 25 yrs, but I live a normal life. Many people go thro this sort of thing, its treatable, you will get better, just hang on in there, but get medical help. Do not sleep too much!, there's nothing worse. You are not useless, you've got the web, & and email me if you feel. Talk to your family, or friends- you must have someone you can confide in, after all you went to Karate training!
And don't even think about suicide, I've made at least 30 attempts so far, I,m still alive! That thoulght should never enter your mind, you are worth a great deal as a human being,wheather you beleive it or not .
DO NOT SLEEP MORE THAN ABSOLUTLY NECESSARY, that'a killer!

Answer 3

Hello David, firstly you have my sympathy, yes depression is
a serious condition. If not treated properly in the early stages it can be life threatening. It is usually brought on by too many knocks in life.Yes you will find that you are no longer socially capable and left out. As well as medication you should be having counselling, firstly I don't know what medication you have been given but citalpram is one that does work, starting with 10mg and over about a period of a year increasing to between 40 & 60mg, It controls your seratin levels which are likely to be low. You need to approach your doctor and see if this would be a better medication for you. If he will prescribe this you then need to make a real effort as the medication starts to take effect. You should find that you no longer wish to lay in bed all day and the suicidal thoughts diminish. You need to make an effort to socialise, although I know this is hard when they have no understanding of what you are going through. You can do it,and when you have, life will be easier and each encounter after that easier still. My friend,you can only help those that help themselves. I wish you the best of luck and good health, if you need a pen friend you can write to me. "E"address on my 360.take care and see your Doc regularly.

Answer 4

Hi Davidlee if the meds are not working after 4-6 weeks ask the doc to change to another type, there is a new version of citalopram called Lexapro that is fab and many more that will help you kick these thoughts and start feeling yourself again.

The thoughts are very bad anxiety and u r in a panic state thinking that u r unfixable BUT keep the faith and see the doc, the correct meds will definately help. At the moment it's hard to realise that you will feel better but trust me you will. They say 3 in 10 get this (as me and u did) and all of those millions got better so lets keep fighting.

Best regards from Dave

Answer 5

I suffered crippling depression last year, and I definitly wanted to die, but I couldnt because it would hurt so many people. You will get better. I promise you, but at the moment you won't be able to see that. What you need to do is make yourself number one priority. Don't make yourself do something you just dont want to do, that only makes things worse. Just do what ever you think you can manage. Every now and then, just give yourself a little challenge, and see if you can do it, and if you can, you feel good. not great maybe, but good. Its tiny steps that will take you a long way eventually. If you feel miserable, say so. phone the samaritans, they're there just for people like you and me. You feel bad and you deserve a sympathetic ear just as much as a physically sick person needs medicine. What you need to find is the special individual thats inside you, and learn to like that person. I know all too well the peace of being cuddled up in your bed, and to be honest, why not? Pull the covers over you and let your thoughts flow, and eventually, all those mixed up thoughts will start to make sense. Oh I feel so bad for you, it's a horrible place to be, but you can get better, I promise.

Answer 6

Hi David I hope you read all the answers and make it as far as this one. I really cannot add much to what has already been said but there is something you should realise. Look at the number of answers you have received. Then realise that many of them have had similar problems. You are not alone I had a complete breakdown some years ago, I cried for three weeks solid ( I was an adult male and we're not supposed to cry are we) It took time but I did learn to cope, I don't think I will ever be completely over it but I am happy and can cope. I can still get upset over really stupid things, but who cares. Go to your GP and ask for counselling and remember there are lots of people out there who care about you even if they don't know you. Good luck and get well soon.

Answer 7

You have to realize that you're not alone in feeling this way. At the same time, find a help group which has others that feel the same way. If you're not comfortable sharing with them, perhaps you should choose a close friend or family member that you trust and tell them how you feel. Your situation isn't hopeless. Just realize that people do feel this way, writing in a journal and getting your thoughts down on paper can also be helpful. Then tell yourself that your life is a gift, no matter how alone you feel. And that you must go out and experience life and face in your fears, and in doing that this feeling of useless and hopelessness will fade gradually because it is the greatest feat to face yourself.

Answer 8

I think in the first instance you need to get some professional help I'm sure your doctor has recommended counselling of some sort. I must stress that you have already helped yourself by understanding your problems and admitting you need help pat yourself on the back well done! yes you have had suicidal thoughts but you haven't acted on them another plus! so you've given up on the karate training big deal you've admit ed your scared this is another step forward what you could try is going to the class but don't feel that you have to participate try watching for a little while don't expect too much you are doing the right thing by asking for help now you need to act. don't worry you are not alone in those thoughts take comfort from that fact keep with it!! I'm rooting for you.

Answer 9

I've had depression and Anxiety (panic) disorder for 8 yrs now. I have managed to control it somehow on my own through breathing and relaxing strategies. If you are on medication for this and it's still an issue at all, then you are on the wrong medication and you should see your doctor again. Definetly don't wait if there is feelings of suicide, that's not good even if you know you won't do it. Also try to laugh at yourself when you go into a Anxiety attack to remind yourself that it's not real and your being silly. That used to work for me!! Good luck and I hope you feel better.

Answer 10

the best thing to do when depressed is talk to other people. I know you may not want to but you will feel so much better just knowing someone is listening (I promise). Get in contact with family, friends you may have disconnected from. Clean up your place, do things that will make your environment feel better. The only way to break the thoughts is to become active so your mind can breathe. Get a haircut, buy a new outfit, and celebrate what you have.